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My son isn't diagnosed/as yet not been referred He's very speech delayed has made alot of progress since the NY. Few short phrases qnd went from maybe 10 to 60 words. I'm also pregnant due August qnd feel exactly the same. Don't think he's any clue what's coming and I'm do worried about how he/I will cope x

@M I’m glad I’m not alone in this but I’m really sorry your going through it as well I know how hard it can be. My son struggles going out and about he will be okay with the idea of it most of the time but it’s the build up and getting ready he refuses and then he really struggles with the pram but he won’t walk long distances on his own either and I can’t carry him everywhere but he doesn’t understand it’s either the pram or walk. I want to be able to give him all the attention he needs from me he gets upset even if I leave the room to cook or clean, he follows me to the toilet and cries if he can’t come in with me I just hope he will be okay adjusting to everything I want to make it as easy for him as possible but at the same time he has no idea what’s going to happen he’s just going to wake up one day and see another baby and he won’t be able to tell me how he feels or what he thinks. X

It's very hard. Mine likes to go yo softplays and to safe parks or walks where he has freedom. He 80% of the time walks nicely and fairly far/holds my hand, other times can be a bit of a bugger. He's pretty good with his pram though. That does sound hard in the house, tbh mine is fine in the house on his own he just makes a mess or will watch tv. I'm really unsure how to get him used to the idea. My SIL is due a baby really soon so hoping that may help as his other cousins are older than him. He does go to a childminder 2 days a week but will be changing yo a nursery 3days a week, the week after baby is due. I'm so worried all this change will be so hard on him. It's so hard the unknown x

@M the unknown is definitely scary. I feel so bad I want to take him out to the park and soft plays more often but once he’s out of that pram there’s no way he’s getting back in it. And then I have to carry him , push the pram and manage to get home and my partner works so it’s all upto me to get it done and I feel like we don’t go out as often as I’d like because of the “what if he don’t go in the pram” “what if this/that” etc. the other week we spent 2 hours at the park , didn’t take the pram I thought okay let’s try walking and he walked for about 5 mins until he stopped refused and lifted his arms up wanting to be carried but being heavily pregnant it’s soo hard. And then we was there for 2 hours and when it was time to go he got really upset and refused and cried so much to the point he fell asleep after. He goes to nursery has done since he was 1 and they are the ones who said they’ll do the referrals so once your baby starts going to nursery definitely raise your concerns and

See if they will make a referral. I’ve not long put him into his own room and before he was in his own room he was wanting me to hold his hand to sleep every night 🥹🥲 and he’s still in his cot and I’m scared of putting him in a toddler bed idk how he will be with it

I've been making myself more since the end of the year and it's helped his speech. Ye he can he hard to get back in sometimes as he's very heavy but I choose places I know he can have more freedom. Aw ye that's hard if he isn't keen on walking. I'm thinking they'll wnat to do a referral. I have our HV/community nursery nurse involved and they don't seem to think he's autistic, my husband is the same but I do. I have S&L coming out finally in a few weeks too. Fortunately mine has been in his own room since 9mths. His sleeps alot better now and will come in in the morning for a cuddle. He does often like cuddle or hand hold in cot but can self sooth too. Ye I'm reluctant to get rid of the cot too

Have you considered getting a wagon instead of a pram? Since it's enjoy that better as it feels less restricting... might make it easier to take him out and about! Sorry this doesn't directly with the your post, but i do think that getting him out and uses to playing with other kids when you're with him can help him get used to not being attached every second so his transition is a little easier! :)