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Are you opposed to alternative methods of birth control?

@Evelyn don’t want to take the pill as my family have problems with blood clots and the pill so dangerous to take so stick with condoms x

It’s such a normal fear of getting pregnant again , I was the same when my daughter was small ! TMI warning - But I’d just say that after the sex if you can see the sperm inside the condom try to be reassured by that Xx

have you tried other methods other than the pill?

@quira nope but considering it x

there’s non hormonal options also, i’ve opted for the depo injection as it’s the only option i can tolerate. it’s once every 3 months x

I would speak to your doctor and they will advise alternative birth control theirs so many aside from the pill

Look into the copper IUD! I got it 6 weeks PP. The only junk thing about it is that you can get heavy periods/bad cramping 😅

i feel that to some degree, i’ve been cycle tracking for 2 years and it has been successful but i still anxiously wait for my period every month. trying an IUD soon but im nervous. definitely not getting the copper because ive heard so much about the heavy bleeding

I’m terrified of getting pregnant again, I’m one and done. My partner is getting a vasectomy so hopefully that’ll help the fear but I completely get one you mean x

I was exactly the same, I think this is really common x

I know everyone has different experiences but I had the copper coil previously and didn’t have heavy bleeding. It did take a few days to settle in comfortably-I remember cramps initially, but after a few days, it was fine.

Im on birth control and we use condoms and i still get scared of being pregnant anytime we have sex so we rarely do it 🙃

What about BBT temp tracking? Theres a small device called Ovusense that can be inserted vaginally that tracks your body temperature while you sleep to give you an idea of when your fertile window is, so you can avoid sex around your fertile window not sure if its 100% fool proof as i don’t know how long sperm is active for so of course do your own research beforehand I used it to conceive so cant imagine it would be much different to avoiding conception

I’m the same way. 3 months pp, had a horrible pregnancy and birth and literally having surgery today to get the placenta out that they left behind. My husband doesn’t wanna use condoms and I don’t wanna get on birth control so we’re just not having sex ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

So I wasn’t nervous after my first then popped pregnant with my second got my tubes tied and now I constantly fear of pregnancy cause when I found out with both my babies I was 8-10 weeks pregnant and didn’t notice I didn’t have my period. But knowing now that there are serious consequences from an ectopic pregnancy even a slim chance I panic but I always try to remember that if I miss my period seeing I’m super serious about tracking my period I will know asap. I’d say worry but don’t. So like make sure there’s sperm in the condom avoid fertility window.

Try the Jadelle implant. Lasts for 5 years. You have regular periods every month. No weight gain, maybe only a little. Doesn't affect your hormones like the depo lol the depo brings out the bitchy hormonal side and you get spotting in-between periods.

It's understandable and don't blame you for getting paranoid about possible pregnancy every month. You must be doing good so far though using protection. 7 months now and no pregnancy yet.

If feeling anxious maybe take a secondary method too? Pill/injection/patch etc

If you don’t want the pill or anything hormonal, try the IUD. Condoms and the IUD are a great way to feel more secure as you are both protected

tell your mans to get snipped

@Roxy or ask if that’s something they want to do? it’s also unfair to just tell your partner to get the snip

Are condoms quite safe? He pulls out too

Condoms are safe if used properly. He doesn’t need to pull out. We are only on condoms atm and no issues or pregnancy scares. I get pregnant pretty easy, first cycle trying with both babies, but condoms work find. I prefer the pill but I’m breastfeeding so can’t use my normal contraception.

I was two days late this month and getting so anxious. But once this one has ended I will call the gp to get the coil back

If it makes you feel better my husband and I used condoms (w/no pullout) for 7 years with no oopsie babies. Only made babies when we tried. I also used Clue app to track periods/ovulation so that might make you feel more at peace too if you track? I had a bad reaction to copper IUD so I had it removed after a few months, I wouldn’t personally ever wish that on anyone and would never recommend it

I was TERRIFIED of getting pregnant after having my son. My husband used condoms and I was on the pill. Even then, I was still worried. I think tracking your cycle can help relieve some of it, but you could also look into something like the IUD that you won't forget to take or worry about breaking like a condom.

I don't think it's normal to be that paranoid but you can't help how you feel. I'd discuss birth control methods with your doctor, there might be a better option for you. Or if you and your partner don't want more kids perhaps they could have a vasectomy

I feel the same way but condoms are pretty fool proof as long as you use them THE ENTIRE TIME

I was exactly the same way, fear of getting pregnant again and whatnot even though used protection... And then found out i was pregnant.🫠 so yeah, I think the fear is valid. 😬 My older one is 13 months and im due in oct. Condoms are 98% effective when used correctly, so there's still that 2%... unfortunately that 2% was me. 🫣

If it's limiting your life I would probably look into other forms of birth control. I got an IUD put in after my c-section, so far so good 👍 It's almost stopped my periods too which is a plus 😂 I was actually asked if I wanted one because I did get pregnant immediately PP by mistake. Mirena IUD uses a different hormone than the pill so if you can't use the pill it's worth looking into still. It is also statistically safer than using a condom, ofc it will only protect from pregnancy though- not STIs. The protection lasts for 8 years but can be removed anytime before then if you do chose to have more children.

I feel you I’m due in June, 2nd baby with 14mo only between them, and it will be a 2nd c-section. I’m already stressed to have sex after, I can’t have a 3rd that close again, for my mental health but also for my physical safety My hubby and I are so fertile together 😅 I can’t take the pill as well for the same reasons, and I can’t the DIU I will track my cycle and wait until I’m regular, and do it only very far away from ovulation Sorry hubby 😅 but I think he’s afraid as well 🤣🤣

@quira lol

The IUD is hormonal. The copper IUD is non hormonal. That's what I'm on and it's 99% effective. Even then my husband doesnt finish inside me; he pulls out (his pull out game worked for 2 years when I wasn't on birth control) and i HATE the feeling of condoms. I think your are pretty safe with a condom and pulling out but if you want extra peace of mind you could get on another form of birth control. The copper iud is a good non hormonal option. That's what I got on because I was tired of hormonal birth control and how much it messed with my weight and cycle.

There are definitely many more definite forms of birth control. The pill is the only thing that worked for me without side effects