Feeling guilty

Just want to get something off my chest and get some reassurance. I had my baby girl 9 weeks ago and she’s a treasure, I love her so much I can’t explain❤️ But I know I don’t want anymore children. But Already people keep saying to me “when’s the next one coming along” and “ah you’ll change your mind when she’s older” and “she can’t be an only child she needs siblings”. But all that’s going through my mind is the horrific pregnancy experience and how traumatic the birth was for me. I know that I don’t want anymore. Part of me feels really guilty because I have 4 brothers and 1 sister so I’ve grown up with a big family, and we all get along so well, even to this day (all of us adults) we still have our games nights and have a good laugh. Half of me wants my daughter to have that, but the other half really can’t comprehend going through pregnancy and birth again😭 Am I a bad mother for not wanting to give my daughter a sibling?☹️

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I'm one of 5 and only have one child. I was the same. I didn't want to go through it all again. I feel guilty sometimes, but I couldn't do it now as my son is 10 coming up 🤣

We had our little girl 5 weeks ago and throughout pregnancy we said we would be “one and done”. I don’t think there is anything wrong with having one child to dote on and give all your attention to. I am one of 2 and so is my partner and having siblings hasn’t influenced our choice. People have said we’ll change our mind but with the costs of everything, I would rather have one that doesn’t want for anything than risk us being short ever. You will know what is right for your family, don’t let anyone convince you otherwise! Xx

I know people are obsessed with other people's reproductive plans but this is ridiculous, you're 9 weeks pp, why are people piling on pressure for another already!!?? Only you know whether you want more or not, I do know quite a few who have said they're one and done soon after having their first who did go on to change their minds a few years down the road when the trauma was more distant so you don't need to make a firm decision now. But that absolutely does not make it OK for other people to weigh in on your choices!! And that said, I knew I was one and done after IVF and it absolutely has not changed!! Just focus on your little one, and anyone saying this sorts of things to you need to fuck off tbh, just ignore them, tell them their opinion is noted and you don't want to hear it again, or (my personal preference) tell them to piss off!!

I’m only having one and he’s nearly two x

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