Attention = needy?
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He is going to get more attention than if he had siblings but that doesn’t mean he’ll be spoilt. I’m no expert but I think the type of attention/ how you respond can play a big part, whether a kid has siblings or not. For any kid I think it’s good to focus on things like taking turns/ sharing, responsibility (like doing little chores/ helping) and independence. I also think not giving in to every request or tantrum or immediately dropping everything you’re doing to play on demand could be helpful. Or if you’re talking to your partner, and your son starts trying to get your attention I think it’s reasonable for your son to wait till you’ve finished rather than switching your attention immediately. That sort of thing 🤷🏽♀️ But honestly I think all kids can have their moments and they’re still little and learning.
@Sorrel totally get what you’re saying. I do think making sure he learns boundaries and manners is super important and I try my best to give him my time and make sure he knows how loved he is. It’s hard sometimes as a lot of friends/family say “he needs to play on his own” but then I feel bad that he doesn’t have a sibling to play with and he’s probably lonely x
I do see where you’re coming from. I have one child too and know there can be mixed feelings. But alone doesn’t necessarily mean lonely. There’s absolutely nothing wrong in playing and having fun together BUT there is value in him learning to play alone too. Independent play can be really beneficial for children, in terms of their learning, creativity, self-regulation, problem-solving etc. so maybe try to reframe it. It’s not about not giving him attention, it’s about allowing him to learn/ develop in a different way x
i use to give my enerything love money then u reaised so i say havent got a budget/£10 poynd pocket money he spt straberry and ice cream .. u he did out like 100 things .. in supermarket