Can you be sexy and overweight?
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The answer to both questions is yes. You can be sexy and overweight. But for some, being overweight can also make you unattractive.
@Tara for some, are you some? I just don’t understand why being a bit bigger makes you less attractive? Like do men REALLY care that much? X
whoever said you can’t be sexy and overweight is wrong! everyone can be sexy no matter their size. i’m a chunky girl and while i may not always feel the most confident, i know my weight doesn’t make me any less beautiful. luckily i have a man who hypes me up always and reassures me
I've seen plenty of attractive people that are overweight. I've also seen my fair share of people who don't carry extra weight well 🤷♀️ 21lbs is not make or break. Someone's attractiveness might be lessened by a loss of confidence though if they find themselves asking these types of questions.
Definitely can! I think what Tara is saying is that it's down to personal preference on what men (and women) like ...
I think not want to have sex is more of a turn off than being overweight. If you’re into and feel sexy, you’ll be sexy. Even if you fake it til you make it, if guys think you’re having a good time it makes them have a good time lol
I actually weight a lot less now than when I met my oh. 21lbs really isn’t very much to make a huge difference to your appearance. Are you that much over your bmi? Of course you can be sexy and overweight. Although it sounds like this is more about finding time for each other and life getting in the way.
Yes definitely. I think confidence is one of the biggest factors in sexiness and you can be confident at any size. From what you’ve said though I wouldn’t think your weight was the issue. It sounds more like you’re both tired with low sex drives. If you’ve suggested you don’t think he’s great in bed maybe thats knocked his confidence too and put him off trying?
I think what Tara was trying to say is that everyone has preferences. But yes, you can still be sexy! Try to have more confidence! Confidence is sexy.
I personally think “sexy” is mostly your confidence. I don’t feel sexy when I’ve been heavier. But I do feel sexy when I’m sub 150lbs. But that’s just me
I see girls at my salsa socials who are bigger girls and they look sexy because they emit sexy and confident vibes even though they’re bigger (and my god they can dance and spin fine, some better than me) so yes of course you can be sexy and overweight. Confidence is everything. My bestie is also a 16-18 and she has no plans to lose weight- huge foodie- and she wears the most stunning dresses sometimes. Her makeup is aways immaculate
I put on exactly the same amount , maybe slightly more...I am a tall person and this weight does not look like too much on me, in fact many people probably will say that I am fine and I don't need to lose anything...but for my mental state is important to be slim...my partner is a tall and sporty guy, he does not comment much on my weight but encouraging me to lose as it will benefit my health...and I am not upset with it
I find some bigger girls more attractive than skinny girls. Same with guys. 🤷♀️
I have put on a ton of weight since my husband and I started dating. He finds me very sexy. But I will say for me being overweight isn’t very attractive. I wouldn’t have dated someone who was overweight and I don’t really like the way I look being overweight and I’m trying to lose it. Being sexy is how you feel in your body. And some people will like that and some people won’t. Like some people like tall people or short people or a certain hair color or even race. Some people like bigger people and some like smaller. It’s just about you and your partner. If your partner can’t accept who you are especially if you’ve gained that weight during pregnancy then you shouldn’t be with them. If they don’t accept you and you were already overweight then they just had their expectations too high
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Crap... I put no and then saw your first comment and I def read that wrong... I meant YES YOU CAN BE! 🤭 My stance on this is as long as your still making yourself look presentable and not a slob and still trying to put effort in your clothes, hair ect. Everything you were doing before weight gain then there's nothing wrong with a little weight. Now if you let yourself completely go, like not having your hair presentable, wearing slobby clothes all the time then I'd say maybe take care of your hygiene better and it'll make you beautiful. Weight should not determine whether your sexy or not. It should be how you make yourself look in the eyes of your spouse and on regular basis, making sure presentable when out in a social setting. (Wow I said presentable alot. 🫣)
I agree with Tara. For me personally, I don’t feel attractive when I weigh more and I’m not attracted to overweight people. I know lots of people who are and that’s cool, it just comes down to personal preference, just like lots of men don’t like women who are flat chested or who have implants etc Not actually being interested in having sex and thinking your partner is bad at it is probably a bigger hinderence to your sex life though
Sorry guys I think I put a double negative in this post. The question is “can you be sexy & overweight?” X