What would a UK court say? TW is this abuse
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What have I just read?! I actually want to cry! That poor child 😭 Please call women’s aid!
I would have absolutely caught a case tonight if that were me. I can’t even imagine anyone speaking to my child sideways let alone the person that is meant to protect them PURPOSEFULLY instilling fear in them. Please leave with the speed of light and never look back. Anyone that can treat a baby that way is psychopath. Please run!
Wait, so dragging him upstairs by the feet, in that that your baby was horizontal and his head/body was bouncing off the stairs and he was tearful? (in which case, Christ.) Or do you mean dad picked him up and was carrying baby upstairs held out in front while dangling and holding him upside down by his ankles, more like you might do as a joke/horseplay or something under other circumstances? If it's the former, I think you need to call emergency services and have him checked for concussion. That's really very serious.
Exactly what Lucy said! ^ I imagine (hope 🤞) it's that he picked your son up and carried him upside down by his ankles? But then if he said he'd drag him, I really worry that he might have banged him against the stairs all the way up 🫣 I'm so sorry that you're in this situation, but you have to leave and get the children out as soon as possible. If he's like this after just an hour of watching them, imagine what would be happening if he had to solo parent for a day or longer at any point.
This is unacceptable. I would have a whole family meeting about this as it can be seen as child cruelty
The former, yes Lucy. Horseplay in some situations and that's what I imagine my husband would tell a social worker. However, it wasn't. He carried him by the ankles upside down because he was cross and tired and then basically tried to threaten that that was the consequence of not having listened to Dadda. How on earth am I going to convince a court that my husband should not be allowed overnight contact (ie when he is tired and has zero patience)? There is no evidence of his behaviour. Just my word.
Raise your concerns with someone, then its recorded at the time as a concern. Is it something the kids have mentioned again since? You could ask them to do a child's voice interview with the kids?
Make plans to leave your husband and never look back. The abuse you have described will only escalate while it remains unchallenged. You absolutely owe your children this, they depend on you for safety and support. What you have described is child abuse. Your husband's behaviour will leave your children with lasting psychological scars. There are organisations that can help you leave your husband safely. One option is to attend your nearest Women's Centre drop-in and ask for urgent help. Please don't allow your children to grow up thinking your husband's behaviour is proportionate and normal.