I wish I would’ve read this waaay sooner

My baby just turned one has her own room nd has been sleep trained since 3 months nd I could never imagine if she still woke up he should b sleeping thru the night by now on his own.

@Mella that's false. It is biologically normal for little ones to wake in the night until they are 4 or 5. 2 is still very very normal for them to wake in the night. Just because your baby sleeps, doesn't mean someone else is doing something wrong.

I got this book ages ago and still haven't read it 😩 my 3.5 yr old still has awful sleep, even after having surgery for sleep apnea. It can be so exhausting being a parent! You're doing amazing! You will sleep again!

@Mella this is not true. Two is still very young and they’re still expected to wake at this age. My son is 4 and still wakes during the night - I mean, I still wake up several times a night. Your baby sleeps through the night because she sleep trained her.

@Alyssa well she wasn’t actually sleep trained but she got on a schedule on her own sleeping through the night and than same with now still she’s still on it. Idk I just thought cause most kids I’ve known and I have 6 siblings and then mine they have all done that so I didn’t know. Schedules help I have a schedule with them if I didn’t she probably wouldn’t sleep at all😭

@Charlotte My son is four and still wakes several times a night. It was so bad at one point that we had several sleep studies, EEGs and EKGs. All came back but normal. We think he maybe is having night terrors. Thankfully he has gotten better the last few months. He still wakes up but he typically just quietly climbs into bed. I will say he only got better when I stopped stressing out and trying to “fix” his sleep. We always try to start him in his bed but if it doesn’t work we don’t fight it and he sleeps with us and we don’t make him go back to his bed if he wakes up. I’ve kind of just accepted that our sleeping arrangements are chaos. Some nights I’m in bed alone and dads in bed with both of them. Some nights I have my daughter, others my son. Rarely were all four squished in one bed hah

@Charlotte I didn’t know most kids I’ve known sleep through the night 😭

@Mella Yeah we have no schedule. I’m a stay at home mom so I think that could contribute to why my son doesn’t sleep as well. I got a little more strict when I had the second with bed times and stuff. So funny all the kids you know sleep well because it’s the opposite for me. I feel like everyone I know has sleeping issues with their kids.

Oh okay and I’m a stay at home mom too as I have no choice being a single mom but yeah I moved my first into her own room before my second I was so nervous about it being a huge problem 🤦🏽‍♀️ but worked out fine. One thing I know is nice baths before bed always does the trick with the sleepy time bubble bath they have different brands if u don’t like ones with melatonin. And the white noise super helpful u most likely already do this all😭

@Mella Yup, I have tried it all hah that’s why I have just given up at this point. He just comes and lay in bed with me. I know it won’t last forever so I’m just going with it. Much less stressful for every one.

@Alyssa that’s how I feel with my 3 month premie she isn’t good at sleeping yet because she has such bad stomach issues I don’t expect her to sleep thru the night anyways but even in the day she just cries and cries and cries even hard for her to nap she’s so gassy tomorrow I’m gonna see about changing to maybe a soy formula idk. But yeah it was a brutal awakening with her since my first is so easy in all ways 😭😭😭 hoping this gas can get helped soon, but yeah sometimes I get sad I wish she could sleep with me but I don’t want it to cause a interruption in the schedule and her to think she can all the time.

@Charlotte Related but kind of not, what surgery did your child have? My son is a terrible sleeper and we suspect it might be due to sleep apnea. They’re proposing an adenoidectony. I’m terrified though and am hoping to seek some feedback from parents whose child has had it done.

@Jenn he had tonsils and adenoids out, and grommets fitted too. Feel free to message me. X

@Mella Both of mine were premies too so I understand that. Definitely complicates things. Have you looked up any exercises or massages to help her? My daughter had some similar issues and they really helped her! I also noticed that she got better when we stopped supplementing with formula and were only nursing. Could definitely be the formula!