How to you tolerate constantly negative/rude/passive aggressive fake family members or girl group/friends?
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Ok well I’ve never even met anyone who acts like this much less befriended them, so that’s my advice! Don’t make friends with bitches. Family tho- that sucks, not much you can do there except as you said, make your own fam
Omg I’ve been experiencing this too I just be thinking like why would they say this. I just distance myself from them & try to not hang out with them.
@Trish consider yourself lucky. When I was younger I went to a Birthday party sleepover and ended up locked in a closet & forcefully drawn on with sharpies. I’ve NEVER been able to be comfortable around most females after that experience. Now I just have no filter & say it how it is I don’t care who I offend I’m not here to be everyone’s friend. 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️
My friends don’t really ever make negative or rude or passive comments to me, ever. Maybe you’re hanging around the wrong people/girls. They have told me some real stuff, but it’s true and real and sometimes yeah it’s not what I wanna hear but what I need to hear. I do the same back. But that’s the friends I need. My friends don’t make snarky comments. It’s a blast every time I hang out w them we just laugh and smile and lift each other up or just in each others company. If they are rude call them out on it or ask “what do you mean” if they’ve said something you don’t really understand. My mum is the most negative person in my life but I don’t see her often I’ve distanced myself from her and only see her when I absolutely have to, like if she’s hosting a family catch-up. Even then I avoid her in her own house and just focus on my sisters and nephews etc. She’s the only one ever that’s made me cry through anger/emotion.
With passive aggressive or rude comments I just say “what do you mean by that” or “wait can you explain I don’t get it” or something of that nature. Generally when rude people are called out like that in front of others they’ll try to walk back what they said cuz they’re too cowardly to outright say the rude thing, they realize how bad they look lol and eventually they will stop if you keep doing that (in my experience)
Woah !! Are we living the same life? With family, what I do is cut them off or grey rock, depending on who it is/what I think is right. Friends I have none anymore. I’ve had the big girlfriend groups but they never worked out, whether it be we just grew apart or drama someone created. I just focus on my family (husband and baby). They’re really all that matter to me and I take time for myself! Do all the things you have fun doing with friends, but do them alone. Remove the expectations of having people and just enjoy your life. People will come and go. Plus the only way you meet new people is if you go anyway.
I don’t. I’m made out to be the ass hole sometimes but that’s because my family doesn’t like getting called out on their shit
I feel like I literally have PTSD after hanging out around these types of ppl. I will literally repeat whatever rude thing they said in my head multiple times forever because I’m so bothered by it also trying to figure wtf they meant by it, I can’t stand it.