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Have you tried swaddling him with a blanket? My boy hated the Moses basket until we used his blanket to swaddle him and now he will sleep in there!

You are not failing. This is called the fourth trimester and is absolutely normal. They have been inside us for 9 months and they don't know they are separate from us so just want our comfort and warmth... and food. That doesnt make it any easier however. My first was like this and my second is not. Here are a few tips that might help little one sleep out of your arms. 1. If you are comfortable cosleeping, look up the 7 safe sleep. If not, then that's okay. 2. In the moses basket try using a shirt you have worn that day unwashed as a sheet - it will have your smell on it. 3. I use a muslin cloth to feed and burp. I hang it over the edge of the moses basket so familiar smell. 4. Put down bum first and then head. Continue to rock/pat bum. 5. Use moses basket in the day for naps and do the above still. 6. Rub his chest when unsettled and do shush sounds/white noise. 7. Don't be confused between him waking up and active sleep. Active sleep though looks uncomfortable and awake, they aren't.

Swaddling is another one to try like the previous person suggested to. If all else fails, can you do shifts with your partner. Ie if they are back to work can they take on the evening shift - holding baby while be sleeps from early evening til midnight say so you can catch up on sleep and then you take over so they can sleep for work or whatever arrangement is best so that you can sleep. Even if its something like blocks between each feed or couple of feeds if breastfeeding? X

Im in the exact position with my little girl, she is 12 days old and cant be put down for more than 5 minutes. I feel guilt for wanting to put her down as I know my baby just wants to be close to me and feel safe but also it is so hard constantly fighting the sleep and I worry so much about accidentally falling asleep whilst holding her. Im going to try putting her down more in the day time however I usually take her out after a couple of minutes as she seems so upset and uncomfortable. Im hoping things will improve as she gets a little older but my partner is back in work next week so we really need to get a realistic routine in place. Really feel for you, I know how difficult it is, we will get there. Xxx

You are not alone. I’m the same. My baby is only 5 days old though and she can’t be put down. I have to hold her all the time. Pass her to my partner so I can sleep but because I’m breastfeeding he can’t always hold heels She also wants my boob for comfort all the time too and my boobs are so so sore.