Words of wisdom

Any word of wisdom or support from sahms or anyone who can understand and empathise. I know this isn’t a big deal to some people and I am privileged to be in this position - I have taken the decision to not return to work and stay at home caring for my child for longer following my maternity leave. But it feels so bittersweet… she is the biggest blessing in my life and is so easy going. But I’ve worked for over 10 years and am so used to earning having steady income and independence. I know I’ll never get that time back with my child and if ever she needs me most is now, is it normal to worry that I might not be so content with my decision? What can I tell myself to reassure that this is a step in the right direction? I don’t exactly love my job so it’s not hard to let go of lol it’s more the idea that I might feel like I’m missing out… yet here is my perfect little human whom I adore and want to cherish Thank you 💕

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Hi there, I totally understand you! You are changing your routine of work to stay home and that can be challenging and also lonely! But I do wish you find your people, a good group of moms that meet up in parks would do wonders! Life is about being with our loved ones, let yourself enjoy those moments ❤️

Think of it as you getting to see all of her firsts and you’ll cherish those moments even more. Sure it’s tough but it’s definitely worth it. You can go back to work once she’s in school but you can’t ever get those first years back

Follow your heart and what it tells you. It’s a very personal decision and the way it feels for everyone is different. My husband gave me a choice to stay home after mat leave and not to come back to work if I want. Financially, we could afford that. But I definitely didn’t find this position a privilege at all. After all, I was glad I came back to work. But I do like my job, so, that’s the important factor. I realised that I’m a much happier person and a better caring mother when I do both, succeeding at my career and caring for my child after work.

From what it sounds like, you know what you want to do. You will never regret bonding with your child in moments that are so rare and beautiful. It's irreplaceable. Going to work at a job that you don't even think you'll miss is completely replaceable. You can always find work later in life. You can never re-raise that child.

Just know you’re not alone. I really really struggled becoming a SAHM because I was so career driven and did enjoy my job. I’m now 5 years in as a SAHM and don’t regret my decision at all.

I decided not to go back to work and the best decision I have ever made.

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