I wish husband cherished me more💔

Girl, I feel like I wrote this. My hubby is gone Monday thru Friday and I’m home with 3 kids. 15, 10, and 4. Sports events every day just about, school, preschool, and a puppy. It’s a lot. He always tells me how grateful he is and how he appreciates me. I tell him that too. But we are so damn exhausted on the 2 days he’s home a week….we never have time together. Never go out. If we go anywhere, it’s church, grocery shopping, and the kids baseball games etc. it’s really hard. I totally feel you. We need to make it a priority to spend some time together alone. We don’t have help either. I want something to look forward to. Get pretty. Feel like a woman again. Not just mom, chauffeur, maid, etc. ughhhhhh what to do??!!??

Go on your town Facebook group and ask for babysitter recommendations. Especially with summer coming there are a lot of high schoolers/college kids (cpr and first aid trained) that will be and are starting to look for work. Saving a couple bucks every day to afford a baby sitter for 3-4 hours one night is SO worth it. Even if it’s once a month. It’s something to look forward to. You guys have to prioritize yourselves every so often or you’ll get lost in the chaos. Remember you’re not just mom and dad. You’re husband and wife, lovers, and friends. 🩷

Maybe it’s just me but if I was being treated Iike that there’s no way I’d be making work lunches or having dinner ready when he got home. I’m a firm believer of you reap what you sow if he isn’t going to treat you like the living devoted wife you obviously are then don’t be one! My husband doesn’t even get dinner if he’s rude to me, the other day he had the balls to snap at me while I was folding washing so I just threw all his clothes in a pile on the floor for him to deal with. People don’t tend to reflect or change if you don’t advocate for yourself

Omg please start planning date nights! Also this is suuuper common. Spouses not seeing what the other has to deal with. If you guys switched places for even a day and it would open your eyes and you'd gain so much appreciation. Resentment can grow if you think the other has it easier and it's common to think being at home is just a vacation when it's not. I think every sahm and working spouse has this moment of just not knowing what's it's like. This may just be a tight spot too. Encourage your husband to find a job he enjoys more, not right away per se but to start looking. If he is less stressed he can have more time and mental energy to be present for you and be a better partner. A job he hates can crush him over time. I pushed my hubby to get a different job when it was sucking the life out of him. It was a life saver for all of us. And him being home occasionally to take on my role makes him see how hectic it can be. You could also sit down and talk about each other's struggles-equally seeking empathy