No more sex, is this normal?

they can still watch porn on apps like reddit or use a vpn i’m pretty sure, maybe ask if he has those apps or go on his phone?

@Isabella yeah he doesn’t have those apps, I have access to family apple account so can see what he downloads. Also wow didn’t know Reddit has porn 🤣 His phone has no signs of any porn but I’m thinking maybe he’s just not using it now and doing the needful without it as he’s desperate?

He can still find porn videos on Twitter too

It’s really something you need to sit down and talk to him about. Sex shouldn’t be a taboo in the relationship nor should sexual needs and I’d really get to the route of why he had a porn addiction in the first place. It wouldn’t have just gone away so you both need to address it without being so against it you can’t talk about it.

u can also check their viewing history and search history so if u really wanna know that’s how you’d check, and also on his emails see if he has any emails from twitter or reddit (bc this means he has an account). i know it’s so hard but he just needs to be transparent with everything to help your relationship.

I don't recommend going through his phone. You should just be able to talk and him and trust he'll tell the truth. Without trust, what is a relationship? X

@Kathryn we have talked about it and I know the reason for the addiction too. Hence why he told me he’d stop, but recently when I’ve tried to talk about it again he says that he just doesn’t want to have sex and doesn’t give a reason for it

@Deb we do talk about it almost daily, because it bothers me and I’m not one to sit and stew on what’s getting me down

@SiSi I agree it’s creepy, I just don’t know if that’s what he’s doing still or not. I won’t leave him, sex isn’t the only thing in our relationship, it’s just one thing that’s missing. He’s a great dad and does a lot for us

@Deb i know that it seems weird to some people to be on their partners phone, i didn’t mean secretly do it, some partners are just very open and it’s normal to be on each others phone

@SiSi I didn’t say he pays for my house lol. I pay for my own house and anything I need, don’t get me mistaken for a gold digger because I’m not. I don’t want my daughter to grow up with a broken home. I don’t need him, I want him. There’s a difference. I think you misunderstood the post, I was asking if anyone has experienced the same that’s all

Can I ask how did you block it from your WiFi?

@Summer I have full control over what the internet is used for. Plus the family computer is in full view in our lounge so I can see what’s going on with it at any time. Nothing exciting ever happens on there though

Oh, girl! I feel ya! My ex husband of 8.5 years was addicted to porn and this broke our marriage. It started with porn addiction that led to him not being interested in me and needing smth different to get excited each time. Then this led to him not being able to get it up without a pill. Then to us not having normal sex at all as this would be a “chore” for him to get it up. So all he wanted was blowjobs. No, thank you!!! Then he started engaging with prostitutes for paid sex…. There goes my story. So having gone through this and his promises, i am sorry to tell you that most likely porn addiction is non fixable unless he seeks true intervention and help There are ways he can still do it. It is not just the phone and computer, love. I know how you are feeling and you want to believe that this will work and you want to believe him and his promises to the point that you think controlling all data and having access to all history/web will do it…. Just dont get hurt

@Katia so sorry to hear your story, it’s incredibly sad that this broke your marriage! Thanks for your advice, appreciate it.