Kinda depressed.
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I can feel you , I've been going through in life for the same but after looking to my son I should stay strong and to make him more happier which I ever had . Stay stronger , Be Happy always for your kids 💕
I know I’ll be a happier mom away from this relationship but I don’t want to share him I don’t want to spilt my time. I think it’s unfair. I was a sahm spent everyday all day and now I can’t and the rage inside me because of it. I has never been away from me over night and now it’s gonna be our new life and I hate it. More than anything scared about the change.
Thank you ladies ❤️ I just want to cry in a dark room
You’re not wrong for feeling what you feel. You poured into your relationship, built a family, made sacrifices, and now everything is shifting. That’s a lot to carry. Mourning the loss of the “family unit” you pictured for your son isn’t just sadness—it’s grief. And it’s okay to grieve. It’s okay to be mad. You’re not just dealing with a breakup—you’re mourning the version of life you thought would be permanent. You gave your all, and now you’re facing this moment without the comfort of a partner, a village, or financial security. That’s real. And it hurts. But even in this dark place, I want you to know: you are not failing. You are making one of the hardest choices a woman can make—choosing your peace, your growth, and ultimately, your child’s well-being, even if it means starting over from scratch. That sadness you feel? That’s proof of your love. That anger? That’s your fire saying you deserved better. Let both exist, but don’t let them define you.
@Brittany 😢😢 thank you that’s beautiful and that’s how I honestly feel like I’m grieving. Romanticly i still love him duh why would I been this hurt or mad if I didn’t. I’d just go and start over if I didn’t have no feelings for him. He can say it’s my fault my attitude or because he feels his way strongly but it’s BOTH of us not just one of us and he just wants me to take the whole blame. I stepped up at 21 to be a step mom to his 3 year old child. Dealt with BM drama always and I say ALWAYS was the bigger person never got rude or ghetto with her. I’m so fucking mad. But honestly it’s a lot of denial. I’ve been in denial for a long time and now I’m seeing the truth. It’s a relationship I don’t want. He doesn’t take photos with me and these have been since I’ve met him! So he was already like this! I didn’t make him this way! As he loves to say! He has zero emotions intelligence. He has embarrassed me on more than one occasion. So I definitely understand not wanting to be together
I had my baby at 35 and I have friends that haven't had babies yet. You wanna feel sad, imagine being 35 in your position. Your kid is presumably going to daycare at some point, no? Time to get a job (and possibly a career!). Men will screw you over no matter what - you never let yourself be in a position where you have no experience or skills to fall back on to make money (or you'll always be being told what to do). Sorry to say, but careers are forever and men aren't. Channel that anger into your job search and start getting excited about your future life. Do not let it cripple you, else you'll lose for all women in your situation.
@Stephanie yes also very true! I have definitely look into housing and work and etc. I need to renew my ID already have an appointment for that next is a job I have lined up just waiting for the ID. Then build my savings and if by this time I’m in housing maybe find something better or whatever if I have to save by living with him then that’s what it’s gonna have to be. Still need to talk about childcare but when time is closer or things are in line we can discuss
I hear you, and what you’re feeling is completely valid. You’re grieving—not just him, but the future you hoped for. That doesn’t go away just because the relationship wasn’t healthy. You stepped into so much at a young age and handled things with maturity. It’s unfair for him to put all the blame on you when it clearly took both of you. You didn’t make him the way he is—and now you’re just seeing clearly what was always there. It’s okay to still love him and be mad. That shows how deeply you cared. But now you’re choosing truth, and that’s strength. You’re not alone—keep moving forward.
Here if you want to talk. I agree with the other ladies. I would definitely recommend pouring into yourself now. Use this pain and hurt as a catalyst to put yourself into a better place. Would deffo love to personally talk to you though so if you’re up for it my inbox is open 💌
Whenever something dies it creates a new place for growth and opportunities. New you, new life, new trajectory. I'm sorry you are going through this, DM me if you want to vent. Wish you healing and peace. All this pain is temporary ❤️
Hey mama, I just want to say that your feelings are so valid. It’s incredibly hard to go through a separation—especially after building a life and a child together. I can feel how deeply you love your son, and it’s okay to mourn the family you dreamed of for him. You’re not alone. Even though it feels isolating right now, there are people who care and understand. You're doing your best, and that’s enough. Please don’t forget to take care of you too. Sending you love and strength.