Not Adjusting Well

I don’t have much advice, but I’m here for the solidarity because I’m in the same boat at 4 weeks pp 🤍 I’ve worked a very corporate career for years, managing a team of employees and a list of clients, and let me tell you — the shift to being at home alone with nothing in the calendar has been REAL. I’ve been trying very hard to shift my thinking because I’ve realized I am what I think. So instead of focusing on the loneliness and dread of future empty days, I try to bring myself back to the present moment and remind myself it’s temporary. It hasn’t been easy, but that in combination with getting outside and talking to women in these online communities has helped me with small progress.

Are there any classes locally you can take your baby too? These are also a great way to meet other mums too. You will probably find some in the same boat as you 😊

Get out to the library, playgroups, look for any free baby groups in your area. Go for walks (helps with weight loss and ppd/ppa).

I was the same in the beginning of my PP journey. I have always worked multiple jobs. Constantly on the go. So to stop everything was brutal. Waiting for baby’s next feed, next nap, etc etc. It was killing me. So I got involved in groups and stuff around me. Now I have 1-2 things to do everyday. I’m in a mommy group that meets once a week at various locations - swimming, photo shoots, parks, do crafts, play places, farms, etc. And then I have 12 friends to plan coffee, lunch, more play dates with. We have library programs and EarlyOn programs for free. We do swimming class. Music class. The local theatre does movies for mommies. I make my schedule so I have at least 1 thing a day and that is enough to keep me satisfied. Gets us out of the house and talking with people and stimulates my mind.

This is quite nice to read…. That someone else feels the same and it’s so silly how much we rely on regularity and routine! I will be honest it’s taken me 9 weeks nearly 10 to forget about work and getting into any form of rhythm and routine!! It does honestly get better!! X

I’m currently on maternity and I know exactly how you feel. My husband went back to work three weeks after I gave birth and it just been me and baby girl at home. All my family lives cross country and he has very little family here nearby so my support system is himand it gets very lonely during the day waiting for him to get off of work every day seems the same and there is no breaks until he comes home. I totally get you.

I’m never home as a sahm. All his pics from baby are from out of the house - libraries, baby bounce at the library, museums zoos parks playcentres, malls like IKEA Costco etc, I find mums at mothers groups and I invite them or they invite me out after the library sessions and we spend the whole day out. I invited a peanut mum out once to IKEA, spent 6hrs w her there lol. If you have a car find places to go. Get a museum or zoo yearly pass and from there it’s unlimited entry for that one price, as long as I go more than 3* a year (because the pass is equal to 3 visits) the pass is worth it. Because my zoo pass gives me entry to 3 different zoos not just one. I go to church on Sundays and signed myself up to volunteer on the decor team so 2-3* a week I go to church to to do decor stuff. Help things backstage to set up the day for events etc. so my kids run around the church w the other kids of the other mums who volunteer and they make friends while I make friends and keep myself busy