Concerns over effects of nursery
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It's a big change for them, we are 3 weeks in now and drop offs are getting easier he's happier on pick up. Still isn't napping half as much as at home but it is getting easier slowly already. Give it a few more weeks it's definitely not cruel just a big change for them x
My little girl goes full time ish. She's super extroverted, will eat me out of house and home and SLEEPS like no bodies business at home. When she first started nursery in January it was a struggle with food and naps and she would cry a little at drop off and pick up. Now we're almost 4 months in and she has multiple portions of a meal at nursery, sleeps better than before, not as good as at home but enough, she likes to play, and now when I drop her off she basically ignores my existence when she gets there. Still cries at pick up but like not tears or anything. 3 weeks is no time at all, it will take a little time for your son to adapt to a nursery schedule (which will be nothing like yours at home) and get used to being around so many kids too. It gets so much better, especially for our little extroverted souls.
Thank you so much you lot. This is really helpful. I've seen so much on Instagram, shaming mums for having to use nursery. This is such a positive environment and I'm really grateful for you sharing your stories x
My son has been at nursery for 4 weeks now and today is the first day he has actually played whilst he was there instead of just wanting cuddles all day long 😆 there’s still a long way to go but I can see progress happening. He’s also very active and pretty sociable usually, it’s been really tough so I get where you’re coming from. I do think it takes a while for them to feel safe and comfortable in a totally new environment. I have had the same worries about him settling in and best thing I did was speak to the staff at the nursery about it and shared my worries, it’s opened up much better communication between us and even though he does get upset I feel reassured he is getting supported and cared for x
It’s big change, give it time. Don’t be hard on yourself. Also take your mums comment with a pinch a salt. Don’t dwell on anything negative / unhelpful. It’s just double the stress. I mean is she offering any solutions!
Give it time my lo loves nursery now but struggled at first. It's just normal mum guilt your feeling. Have a Frank conversation about how your mum makes you feel. Nursery is really good for babies socialising and development. Do the other babies seem happy?
Both my sons go full time. My first settled in no problem, my second struggled though. It took a couple of weeks, but he’s now happy when I drop him off and pick him up (and during the day of course). He’s also started eating lots more. It’s a huge change so it will take a bit of time to get used to. I would say in no way is nursery cruel (unless you e picked a nursery where the children aren’t cared for - which I’m sure you haven’t 😂), it can help them with their development massively, and they can start to make friends and interact with other children. (I like to think it helps get them ready for school too).