Do you ever judge someone for having kids quickly in a relationship?

Absolutely not I’ve been with my partner coming up 6 years this week and we have 4 kids aged 5,2,1 and 5 weeks

Nope never, I’ve been with my partner 4 years in June and have an almost 2 year old and soon to be newborn and we had 2 miscarriages before my first and 2 before my second so I don’t judge

I would be the biggest hypocrite, we have a 7 week old and a mortgage together and it’s our 1 year anniversary next month😂

I hate to admit it but I definitely do even though it’s what I wanted to do. A lot of my friends were married young and had kids right away and a lot have already divorced. My husband and I talked about it recently and I thanked him for hauling the breaks for me on marriage. I was ready immediately he’s a more patient guy and we took 5 years together with 3 living together to get to know each other. I think it’s important people have time before bringing kids into the mix. I’ve known people who got pregnant 3 months after knowing someone or even already being pregnant when they go on their first official date and I cringe. I can’t help but think they should have slowed down. Hindsight is always 20/20

No. 100% no. I got pregnant 10 months in the relationship and we are stronger than ever now. I personally know people that got pregnant after 6 months and are still together 30 years later and I know people that got pregnant after 5 years and broke up within 1 year after the child was born. What it’s meant to be, it’s meant to be.

I do judge because I can't understand that impulse, but I also did the exact opposite (we dated for 8 years before we had our son, and there's a 4 year age gap between our kids). Ultimately people should do what is best for them, and I hope the rush doesn't backfire

Nope, been with my fiancé for 5 years and I’ve just given birth to our second baby 🥰 when you know you know.

I do judge slightly, especially when people get pregnant within a year of being together. Like every relationship is good that early on, you are very much still in the honeymoon stage, it’s a huge risk to take. We were together for 8 years before having a child so very much at the other end of the spectrum! But we did get all those years to enjoy our relationship first.

Call me pot haha. My daughter was conceived not long after I met her dad and I can't say it was the best decision I made, especially with how things panned out. I think for that reason and seeing others outcomes who "rushed it," I do a smidge

Me and my partner have been together for almost 10 years now and only decided to start a family once we both had our own place and had the income to support a household.

I feel like when I got with my partner we barely knew enough about each other to have kids until years later. But he doesn’t say much about his childhood at all cause of the trauma

Unfortunately yes I do, but that’s because I’m bitter and it took me 6 years to get pregnant.

My brother and his girlfriend found out they were expecting a baby 6 months after they got together and they are so toxic. It's his first relationship too so he's extra stressed about it. So yes I judge because you don't truly know the person you're having a baby with in a short period of time.

I definitely do, as I've seen SO many relationships where they have rushed into having babies and thr relationship goes tits up very quickly! You barely know someone for the first year, it's madness to be creating a lifelong commitment with someone you barely know!

Nope I was one of them I got pregnant 2 months into my relationship and we've been together 3 years this year with our son just turnt 2 and daughter about to turn 1 it wasn't planned neither of them things just don't work as intended sometimes but were happy about to get married and growing everyday together as a family of 4 x

I’d be a hypocrite if I said yes because I got pregnant 2 months after meeting my partner with my first and now our second born is 6 months old and we have been together 3 years now! 😂

Nope, I’ve been with my fiancé for two years and we have an 11 week old.
We were planning on having kids and getting married anyways she just came quicker than expected and we wouldn’t want it any other way 🤍

I could be the last one to judge lol … it will be 3 years in October since we’ve been together and our son will be 2 in July. I literally got pregnant straight away and didn’t know I was pregnant until I was 8 weeks pregnant 😂

I find that I do cos I know how tough it is to be a parent and can't imagine that with someone I barely know.

Also the idea of 2 under 1 sounds horrific. How do you enjoy your first baby when you were basically pregnant before you got out of the fourth trimester?

yeah like if my daughter were in my shoes tbh I don't think I'd be very happy lol

I dont judge because sometimes a one year relationship can have more depth than a 5 year relationship same way people get proposed to after dating for two years instead of 10. I know girls that are still waiting for a ring sometimes is best to move on

I wouldn’t call it judgement more like concern

I do judge others for this but I literally did the same thing 💀. Me and my fiance started trying for a baby two months into the relationship, and got pregnant the next month. My baby is 8 months old now and we are doing pretty well given this economy. But my fiance is a good man with traditional values. I think that is the only thing that makes our situation not look so foolish. He just got us a house and works while I stay home with the baby. We’re going to be trying for baby number two in a year

Tbh it depends on the people if they are the sort of people who keep jumping in and out if relationships and having kids then yes I judge because it's not fair on the kids but some people are naturally ment to be together and if they been in long relationships before they understand what they want and along as the kids are look after its fine

I met my partner through gaming in June 2023, started long distance dating aug 2023, booked a trip to see him in November ‘23 then came back home. Went back to see him on December 15th and then found out I was pregnant December 24th 2023 lol

out of interest what game? 🎮

DayZ and Escape from Tarkov, then I went on to be a mod in his stream and it went from there haha

love that.

Me and hubby are both gamers. Have a lot of friends we've known a long time through gaming. Had some visiting from the Netherlands Easter weekend in fact :)

Nope, got pregnant within two months of dating. And now been together for 5 years and engaged 🥰

Depends. My coworker started trying for a baby with her boyfriend 3 weeks after they got together. Yes. I’m judging her.

I am but I feel like it’s more concerning than anything. I know lots of people including my own brother who have had kids very early into their relationships and it never worked out.

I think it's all about age x