Am I being dramatic?
Yall pleaseeee tell me if im doing too much. My daughter’s dad and I coparent, except she’s mostly with me. His excuse is he works overnights. He works 3 days a week 6pm-6am and the next week working 4 days a week 6pm-6am and rarely has her over because he’s “tired” . I work every single day and just opened my own business. So, from January-April 12th he seen her every other weekend so about 4 times a month because he was in paramedic school and also working overnight. I agreed to that so he can level up for the sake of our daughter’s stability. Now with that, I had to quit my job where I was making 3k every 2 weeks which paid for her and I, since I would have to be home with her now. He started sending me $250-$300 every two weeks since I had her most of the time but it wasn’t enough obviously. Finally it hit April 12th, and I’m asking him what his work schedule is since he’s no longer in school and he kept leaving me on read and not replying till 10pm the next day. He’d reply with “I didn’t get my new schedule yet” “I’ll let you know” I was upset because I held off on my business until April 12th so that I can get back to work and he can watch her more. Here it is the end of the month and he finally sends me his “new” schedule. Week A: off Monday, Tuesday, Friday, Saturday
Week B: off Sunday, Wednesday, Thursday.
He’s saying he can take her Friday, Saturday, Sunday the first week and the next week he can take her Wednesday and Thursday. I’m like you haven’t spent time with your kid in 4 months and you have 2 extra days off (Monday, Tuesday) and don’t want to take her those days? Sooo you want to sleep? Mind you, I need to work everyday to catch up on bills ect and he’s so selfish I feel. I’m trying to split time evenly and he’s always having excuses as to why he can’t. Also, he failed paramedic school and saying he’s going to sign up again next year for another 4 months away. I don’t know how he failed when he had all the time in the world to study since he didn’t have our daughter with him.
My question is, is he being a bad/absent father or am I trippin? Thanks friends!
sounds like he’s getting distracted by something off on the side instead of prioritizing his responsibilities. i would be very disappointed as well. there shouldn’t be THAT many excuses from him while you’re doing so much to help him out