I'm not sure how to feel..

Fiance works but he's saying he feels like he's falling behind on bills or keeping up. I decided to try alternatives like instacart and doordash. I told him I wanted to do it more frequently to help him out. Now he's upset with me saying that I'm going to sacrifice our time to make more money and that it's stupid that I'd even think of doing that. But all he's been doing is complaining about how he's going to be drowning because of bills. How would you deal with it?

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Talk with him and make a decision together about the best move for your family. Is he complaining for help or venting.

sacrificing your time to help keep the lights and water on? 🤔 I think maybe he might be feeling insecure as the person who is supposed to be supporting the household and he's struggling. I guess I would just ask him how I could help. and if he doesn't offer solutions, then you just do what you gotta do. sometimes stuff gets hard before it gets easy and sacrifices have to be made.

@Sarah this is how I felt. We barely really spend much together being that he sleeps a lot after his 12 hour shifts so I'm just home with the baby most times. So him using our time as an excuse was weird to me. He usually likes to do his own thing while I'm the one asking for him to do something with me. It came off as he just doesn't want me to work. I did ask and he said he can deal with it on his own but he continues to say how he can't afford it so it's confusing

ahhhh sounds like maybe he doesn't want to have to solo parent while you're at work

@Sarah most likely. I'm the primary and he's usually always working so when he's home he wants to just chill. Still hurts tho cause I feel obligated to accommodating him but its still his baby to deal with

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