how often is “normal” 😬

about once every year my husband “jokes” about having a threesome, a few times in one week, and one year he even “joked” about doing it with one of my crazy cousins… I get it that it’s “every guys fantasy” and it’s “super hot” (and yes, in the dark hours of the night when we were newly wed I said if there was one girl i’d “be with” it was her but just theoretically lol we’re religious. so i’m not really offended that he said her name, just that it would be ideal enough ig) but it comes on my radar just enough to notice and have a cry but not enough to truly be worried… cause there’s no way in hell I’m ever doing something like that. I ask him every time where the urge to ask comes from and he always says he’s joking; i’ll push for an answer and we kinda leave it unresolved. i’m not down and he knows it. I just take it personally, even if he doesn’t mean it. like am I not enough for him sexually? i’m sure i’m not most times, but it’s impossible to truly fit his standards, or any guy for that matter cause it’s all “their fantasy” and it’s never as good irl. also for more context, one year I joked what if it was a threesome with two guys instead of two girls and he joked back and said bet. so I guess he just wants to go crazy, doesn’t matter how 🤷🏽‍♀️ at least I’m flattered he wants me included either way? but that’s not enough to soothe my feelings to not write this vent post lol. ANYWAY just wondering if y’all’s does that too 😬

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This is definitely not normal.. one time I joked about this w my fiance just to see what he’d say, and he said no, and he would never be interested in doing anything with anyone else. This is definitely a red flag

I’ll agree that this is not normal. I’m bisexual and my boyfriend has never brought up a threesome. When I have mentioned it he’s shut down the idea very quickly and he doesn’t like the idea

I don't think this is something to worry about. Sexual fantasies are just that, fantasies, and I think it's quite normal to want to explore other things, especially if you've been with someone a while. It might even be that if the opportunity arises then he'd not actually want to do it, but as it's something that's been taken off the table by you then he wants it more. My husband has always wanted anal but I'm just absolutely not interested so it's something he mentions fairly often. Perhaps see if there's anything else he'd like to play around with that is something you'd be up for? Something that's fun and exploratory for both of you

“Entertain” his little charade. He’s most likely bringing it up bc there’s somebody he wants to fuck & wants to do so without “cheating” he got his eye on somebody else just gaslight him into telling you whom that is.

Me and my hubby definitely had this discussion (jokingly) for a couple weeks... till I told him i didn't like it. Never brought it up again

That’s not normal and really disrespectful to say that to you.

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