Hiding in closet during tantrum = mom fail?
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As far as the hitting my LO was like this but her dad has helped tremendously in disciplining her because he doesn’t play that. We don’t hit her or yell at her but he does talk to her firm. You have to nip it in the butt it has got way better Me on the other hand I’m way too soft and wouldn’t know how to deal w that alone so I’m glad he can stand on business.
@Esme That’s the thing though—I typically try to explain things to her or try to give her hugs or other offering other alternatives to the things she wanted (if she’s tantrumming because she wants something I can’t provide at the moment) first; the closet thing is something I sometimes do when those options didn’t work (hence me mentioning that I do it during times when she is getting physically aggressive or being unconsolable). So that’s the tricky part. I do try hug and cuddle with her afterwards when we’re both calm though.
my older sister has a lot of resentment bc my mom would do this a lot growing up she would lock herself in her room while my sister would be outside just banging on her door wanting attention n it just resulted in a further meltdown. I was always kinda always on the back burner watching everything happen and would just go to my room n be alone but now that we are older n talk about the trauma this is something my sister always brings up that she wishes my mom would just have hugged her or just been present during what she was feeling at the end of the day we are the adults here yes it’s normal to get overstimulated n need space but you would be surprised how much a hug when your LO is having a meltdown or trying to talk it out helps! We should help them work through their feelings instead of running away from them IMO. There’s times where my LO throws a tantrum and I’ll walk away from it & she’ll get up and stop but if I see she’s really upset I’ll pick her up and try to make it right