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Jealous mom

I’m a first time mom to my sweet 6 weeks old boy, I HATE when someone carries him other than me and his dad, I get really mad and you can notice by my face but I swear is not intentional, it’s just something inside of me, my MIL loves him and if it was for her she would be in my house 24/7, at some point I felt like she was invading my privacy so I messaged her but it’s been a reason to argue over and over again with my partner because is him mom and he says I don’t like her, I don’t know if what I feel with my baby is normal but it’s something telling me that I’m the only one capable of taking good care of him, can someone give me any advice?

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I’m not like that with my son. I’m actually jealous of other moms that are like this. I feel like I don’t have a bond or a connection to my son. I can’t make him laugh/smile like other’s and I just feel like something is missing emotionally when I’m with him. I feel like I’m just caring for him. Like he’s just there. Idk how to explain it.. I also don’t mind/care when others are with him or watching/holding him.. I feel broken emotionally. It’s hard to explain..

Bri, I actually just talked to my therapist about something similar, it feeling like other people were better at caring for my daughter and giving her love. I said I felt like I didn’t have the capacity to give her as much love as others because I was always exhausted from feeding her at 1am, 3am, 4;30 am, etc. but my therapist said that IS love, all the taking care of them we do. It’s hard to pour from an empty cup. But it will get better, and you are the best caregiver for him.

FTM mom here I feel like this is just natural mom instinct. I will say I dislike when people say or think I need a break from my baby. But i believe it helps your baby letting others hold him/her just so they’re not attached to you and only you. My baby it’s just a little over 5 weeks old and i hate seeing him being passed around but i know other people love him and want to hold him I am just mindful about how long this happens. And I always make sure everyone washes their hands and don’t kiss my baby. Once they get older it gets better. Appreciate the alone time you two do have. Best of luck to you two and family

@Reyna I go to therapy too, but I never said this to my therapist. At my next session I will.. It’s definitely exhaustion, currently writing this at 3 AM feeding my son.. I think it does help letting other people hold him so he’s not so attached to me like you said. So he’s not screaming and crying whenever I’m not there. So when he’s with family and I really need to take a nap, I can take a nap.. I’m also a FTM that’s single so I do everything and very much enjoy my little breaks

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