I want to initiate more.
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i agree with the above comment. give yourself some grace though because a woman’s sex drive is often times responsive whereas a man is spontaneous, he may have the “i could go for some sex right now” and you may never have that. but it doesn’t mean you can’t easily put in a couple steps to get just as horny. make yourself feel sexy, and then set the tone. candles lit, soft music, etc sexy lace and some toys could also help lol. wanting to initiate doesn’t always mean just jumping on top, start with foreplay and set the speed so you can get horny yourself too, don’t put pressure on it
I say get yourself in the mood. It's just a choice sometimes. If you want to show him some love, you can just get yourself fixed up a little, and in the shower or bath use that shower head or bathtub faucet for just a little bit. Get yourself heated up a little or a lot if needed, but I think it makes it a lot more fun if you wait to climax. 🤷🏻♀️ Then just go start rubbing around on his back or sneak up under the covers... Be creative and show him how excited you are to show him how much you appreciate him in all those ways. Maybe involve food, some Rediwhip or melted chocolate or caramel or honey... Get a little messy then have yourself a little snack down there. Maybe make yourself a banana P split or something, just don't freeze him. 🍨😂 I'd better stop. I'm getting hungry. 🤣 OR... Hey, you could also do a little workout routine before bed and show him those moves ya got, just give him a nice view of your stretches, maybe even get some squats in on him. 🥵🫠 Incorporate your interests and have fun! 🤗
I looove all this but I’m shy 😂 been hitting the gym daily and my body looks really good for 7mo PP but I’ve always been a little bit sexually shy when it comes to initiating! Imma try tho 😘
Doesn’t take me much to initiate because I’m a very touchy-feely person already, my love language is physical touch so we’ll be on the couch and watching a movie and I’ll be (subconsciously) running my hands up and down his arm first, then I’ll slide my hands under his top and play around w his belly and snail trail, I’ll go down to his thighs (but non sexually at first) and as the movie is about to end I get closer and closer to his groin and when the movie is nearly finished he’s just about to pop so he picks me up and says something kinky like “I’m gonna eat you if you keep doing that” and then we just giggle all the way to bed. And that’s how it starts. Lol. But I’ve been fondling for the last hour 😂 my non sexual touch slowly turns into sexual touch and for us it’s foreplay longgggg before the real foreplay starts. If we didn’t have teens in the house we used to finish it right there on the couch lol but these days we can’t do that 😂
sometimes if i’m not really feeling it but i want to be feeling it, just cuddling naked, kissing and gently touching him works
It’s not always about sex. Show him affection and touch so he knows that he’s wanted
This is really cute and thoughtful. If you can, maybe get yourself some sexy lingerie in black or red or whatever color makes you feel great. Or just lace undies or nightie? Then maybe get the bedroom dark with some lovely scented candles and some rose petals.. Even just as a start and not always to get in the mood and get things going... Then every other time you just get the candles out and get into your specific lingerie/lace underwear/nightie which lets him know its go time🤗 Hope this helps. And all the best.