Have you got any tips?

Just explain it’s not him is just how you feel as you are exhausted having the kids and you need some you time. Once you start having some you time you’ll feel more relaxed and more inclined too have sex x

Both of you have valid needs. I would explain to him things he could do that would help you get some rest and be more in the mood. Examples: he leaves work, picks up dinner, cleans up after dinner, lets you go take a nap, does bath and bedtime and then you can spend some pressure free relaxing time together. He gives you an actual massage and then you decide if you’re in the mood or not.

Does he ever have the kids by himself for a whole day?

He doesn’t have to understand, he just has to accept it. Maybe if he stayed home all day with the kids for a few days in a row he might get it?

Have him stay home with the kids all day alone for a few days. Then he’ll understand how exhausting it is. And you’ll have had a nice break and be recharged for sex

Sometimes I have sex even if I don't feel like it. It literally takes 5 min out of my day. But my husband goes above and beyond and deserves it; he also totally respects when I say no too.

Damn I'm in the opposite,my partner works all day and I'm a stay at home mum ,and I swear as soon as my kid asleep I'm wanting to spend time with him , and he's like I'm too tired ,I'm also tired but I still wanna do it because hormones lol 😂...but I'm totally okay if he isn't up for it tho as I would never push that ..I have such a high drive since being pregnant...I feel like being a stay at home dad might make him feel like abit more like himself ...