I find people like this so strange. God forbid a woman posts her weekly pregnancy update and says she's past the "safe zone" according to her OB because her baby is well and someone comments something like this.
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People need to learn when to keep their mouth shut. Btw I’ve had miscarriages and I would NEVER say this to someone.
It's common sense that you can miscarry at any time, but the chances go down DRASTICALLY after a certain point in pregnancy, and to say this to someone and make it seem like they're just going to miscarry is disgusting. Let women be happy and celebrate their pregnancy milestones. If something was to happen, then yeah but when them and their baby is clearly doing well, why do you feel the need to be negative and say something so horrible? I really don't get it. Just sounds like some projected trauma and guilt.
Okay... first, to this Paige person that made the comment, the term miscarriage is being lost/born before 20 weeks. Past 20 weeks it's considered a stillbirth. Secondly, there are nice ways to say you should still be wary. 3 time loss momma here, and I would never say something like that to anyone. I'd be happy for them, and just silently say prayers that their little one makes it earth side. Stress doesn't cause miscarriage but it can be a contributing factor, so stressing the momma out isn't helpful!
Ugh, yeah, not a fan of this mentality. There is a time and a place to share stories of trauma. It's healing not to hold those in! BUT on someone's post where they are expressing joy is NOT the place to do that.
those type of people are open wounds that go around bleeding on everybody's clean clothes, when you don't heal yourself you're bound to make people uncomfortable when it shows. I got a couple comments like that during my first pregnancy and they bugged me so much.
@FairyMother 🦖🌸 that’s a very good way of people’s projection of pain!
That's foul. Like obviously, we can lose our babies at any time in pregnancy and even during birth or after. BUT to make it to 24 weeks means that if there's something going on the drs can help do something to save our baby vs if something happened now while im 14 weeks.
So sad that someone would say that. I had two losses and I’m currently 17 weeks pregnant. I’m praying my baby is my rainbow.💗
How sad. I’m sorry u were treated like that. I was so nervous my whole pregnancy cuz I’ve been told half my life that I couldn’t get preg and if I did I wouldn’t make it to term. I still celebrated every moment. It’s not right for people to treat others like this
I had this happen in person!! My boss and I were interviewing someone to take over my job after I went on maternity leave and I said “I’m 22 weeks pregnant” and she looked me in the eye and said “I lost mine at 23 so be careful” WHY WOULD YOU SAY THAT
Just had my rainbow baby and my whole pregnancy was people either telling me he's going to die (some people STILL tell me he's going to die) or tell me I'm being over dramatic. Nobody is ever happy, they want us to be miserable!
She isn’t wrong but she shouldn’t comment that on someone’s post, especially an expectant excited mother as it just inflicts fear. I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks so I get her point there is no safe zone but we don’t need to tell pregnant mothers that!!
That was inappropriate but that wasn't out of malice neither , she is clearly still hurts by her losses and wants to spread awareness. Did you commented back to her or only made this post? I find it weird to make a screenshot with her name and pic not blurred , and make a post out of it, as if she is a villain. I don't think she deserves this though. I wouldn't feel good about it if I were her tbh
@Marie🩵🩷💚 how can you say that's not out of malice?? I have never went up to someone and said " Hey! Don't get too excited yet because i miscarried at this point" Making it seem like they're just going to miscarry too. That's such a horrible thing to say! Everyone knows you can miscarry at any point, so she wasn't " spreading awareness " . That's common sense, and still not something you need to bring up to someone that's having a healthy pregnancy so far. She was just projecting her trauma and her fears onto other people and that's not okay at all and i'm sorry that you feel like it is. I have no reason to blur out her name, her comment was very inappropriate and vile and i want everyone to know who it came from 😊 I have no need to protect someone's identity when they're basically going around telling people they're going to have a miscarriage. I find it weird that you're the only one in this comment section defending her when she was bashing a mother, telling her she was going to
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miscarry and that her baby wasn't " safe". There is a time and place for everything, and to comment something like that under a first time mother's post who's baby is doing well isn't the place or time. So odd.
@Shannon Again, it's common sense that you can miscarry at any time. That isn't something we just need to be going around reminding people, especially when they're baby is doing well and they have no reason to worry.
I HATE these types of comments, I lost my first baby at 19 weeks, it was awful, but I would NEVER EVER in my life say this to someone. I would never want someone to feel the anxiety I had my entire 2nd pregnancy.