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Bm is drama . However ! In some ways I feel like her dramatic reactions are somewhat called for . She and my husband are always fighting about their daughter not wanting to come over. Personally bms not my fav person but I can see why she’s picking fights based on accusations their daughter makes .
IMO , sd is extremely emotional and a lot of times selfish . I believe she’d say anything to either parent because she knows they don’t get along . For example , if sd goes to her mom and says something negative about husband , she’ll lash out then do something special for sd . Then if sd tells husband something bad about bm , then my husband will take her shopping . I think it’s all toxic because she is playing them both . Has anyone dealt with conflict where the step child is the one causing the drama ?
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@Max yes I see it . And then when I’ve talked to bm before she’d be the one to tell me “no don’t be afraid to call her out etc” obviously I still tread lightly but I think her responses are reasonable . If my daughter came to me saying someone was treating her unfairly or something then of course I’d raise my concerns or start a fight with someone . When I try and explain to my husband he imo is delusional . Denying that his daughter would ever “stir the pot”
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My brother used to do this. Took them all sitting down and talking about it all to see he was stirring the pot to receive a sweeter outcome for himself. Dealt with it a lil with my sk, once they realized she was telling them both similar things about the other they chilled out a lot. They need to have a serious talk about this and stop rewarding her for bringing negative information about the other. Until they do this it’s likely nothing will change.