AITA?

So I used to be close friends with this girl, but then she just suddenly stopped speaking to me. She’s now recently revealed she’s pregnant with her first. I was initially confused, as the last time we spoke she was in a relationship with a girl, upon investigating (Facebook stalking), I’ve discovered she’s married to this girl, so naturally my interest was piqued. We still have mutual friends, so I asked if any of them had any further information. Apparently she has been in contact with a man online for two years, a man 50+ years older than herself, who has been supplying her with syringes of his ‘baby gravy’ and she has inseminated herself. I voiced my concerns, as obviously this isn’t a safe or even regulared way to conceive a child, but I also voiced my concerns about her readiness to be a mother. She has never worked, currently receives benefits because she’s ’too anxious’ to travel to work, yet gets a flight to Amsterdam to smoke weed, which she’s still smoking whilst pregnant. She’s also in a privately rented flat that my friends have said she’s complained about as it’s ’rat infested and the mold is really bad’. I said she was a horrible person for deliberately conceiving a child whilst in such a bad position, and my friends have said I was being horrible and even went as far to say my issue was homophobic? Since then the mother to be has even messaged me quite horrible messages. Do you think I was out of line, should I apologise?