Baby shower disappointment
I just need a vent I think
I had a baby shower today (first time didn’t get to do it with my first born due to circumstances) I co oprganised with my close friend at my house as I’m supposed to be on “bed rest” she was running late which is absolutely not her fault but no one turned up but 2 of the 10ish or so people that were invited (not including myself partner and co host friend) even said on the invite were not expecting any gifts but if you’d like to get a little something please get something of the list which was like sleepsuits muslins or baby bath towels nothing that would cost a ton and I can’t help but feel super upset obviously appreciate the ones that turned up but like my experience was completely ruined… I had a whole tea party planned made lovely food had a cake done by the close friends mum whole vision with a ballon arch and decor and in the end no decorations went up and half the food got thrown out as we couldn’t eat it all I just want to sit and cry like I knew I didn’t have many friends before but now I’m realising I truly have none but my kids and partner i feel like it was a waste of time and money like I may as well had stayed in bed in my pjs and not gotten ready coz like what was the point 🤦🏻♀️made effort for nothing
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i’m so sorry for this experience! it sounds like it would’ve been a blast! i hope they realize all that they missed:/
Hey Mama, so sorry you got to experience this. But someone once told me that the people that don’t make an effort to show up don’t deserve to be in your life as soon will be your baby’s life. If they couldn’t be there for the baby shower imagine for when you need them the most.
Best thing you can do for your pregnancy is to avoid negativity.
Wishing you all the best with the new baby 💕
Hey, i had this happen to me. I organised a very chilled afternoon tea vibe at our house for baby shower. Invited approx 10 girls and one who was cohost. Had the cohost and w other show up, my nana also made an appearance. Went through effort of decorating and getting food and that, luckily other half and cohost partner was home so they helped eat the food 🤣 but it stung that people can let you down like that.
This was about a month ago and most of them still haven't spoke to me so I've decided I'm not going to make the effort as most didn't even let me know they couldn't make it xx
This broke my heart, I’m so sorry you had this experience💔 it’s not a reflection on you it’s a reflection on people being flakey and only being friends when it suits. Don’t let them suddenly come back into your life when you’re in your baby bubble and everyone suddenly wants to know again- you are worth all the time and effort❤️ my friend circle is so small but there’s a beauty in just focusing on the people who are willing to show up for you in the most vulnerable times of your life- even if that’s just one friend and your partner✨ be kind to yourself mama, you deserve the world🌍
I’m sorry you feel this way I think it’s actually really common to end up disappointed in your baby shower, a lot of people don’t have support systems strong enough to trust throwing one and they usually happen at the end of pregnancy when so many of us are in pain and exhausted and just not feeling it and people don’t always tend to prioritise showing up to them with my second I was sick with HG which actually turned out to also be gastro so I was absolutely miserable the whole time was 40 minutes late to my own shower and just wanted to go back to bed the whole time. And my first I got heatstroke and HG again and fainted at the end I know it’s hard especially with hormones but just try and focus on the positives and the things you enjoyed about the day and remember why you are even having a shower you are so close to holding that little baby and once you do you’ll barely think about your shower again. If you’re comfortable maybe put some pictures up and we can hype you up a bit ? 🥰
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