I feel judged, I need advice

It’s really not up to your family what decisions you choose and if you want more children that can make your journey longer waiting for a longer period of time. I could name many reason to have this baby now, like the age gap being great between siblings right now which absolutely will help their bonding. The fact that you’d be getting it out the way now to grow once you’re older. But honestly it’s no one else’s opinion that matters. Don’t let someone else create issues for your decision as it isn’t fair on your current baby growing inside you, you’ll regret ever making a decision to terminate if it’s based on other people bias!

You’re a grown woman who is married. You can have kids when you and your husband decide not your family, With the age gap yes work will probably be delayed a little bit but that’s why I have had mine two years apart they are close in age so I can go back to my career and really work at it and not then take another break further down the line. Pregnancy can be hard enough without the extra stress, the second guessing and doubts are definitely normal I have 4 weeks till my second arrives and I am nervous now! Have a sit down and chat to your husband about it all he might help you feel more at ease 🙂

"I’ve been there, and I understand how overwhelming it can feel. When I found myself in a similar situation, I was filled with conflicting emotions—joy, fear, and doubt all at once. What helped me was focusing on small, manageable steps: leaning on the people who supported me, setting boundaries with those who didn’t, and reminding myself that it’s okay to feel uncertain. Motherhood doesn’t mean you have to give up on yourself—it’s just a new chapter. Be kind to yourself, take it one day at a time, and trust that you’ll find your balance. You’re not alone, and you’re stronger than you think." I’m here for you!

Here’s my 2 cents. You keep saying that you feel like your mother and siblings aren’t happy with your news, but have you talked to them and asked them directly ? Feeling like they’re judging you and learning how they feel about it are different things. Also, if you feel overwhelmed and alone now with 1 child, having a second one isn’t going to fix that. So perhaps find a support group or get more help from your spouse that way you don’t feel so overwhelmed in your motherhood. Because it’s going to be a lot of work with 2 under 2 amiga; and you’re going to need a support system, especially if your family is giving you the impression that they don’t think you should have a second one. So prioritize your mental and emotional health first by building a support system that will help you during times when everything becomes too much.

It’s possible that maybe your family saw how isolating and overwhelming motherhood has been for you, and they just don’t want you to suffer through that again by adding on another child. Talk to them. They’re your family. And your growing family will be their family too. So talk to them and see where their concern is coming from. 💜

Honestly just ignore everyone else. My first two were 19 months apart, everyone said I was crazy. My second and third are 14 years apart and everyone still thinks I'm crazy

For me, the transition from zero to one kid was significantly more difficult than going from one to two. My sentiment is that if you already have one kid, then you probably won't regret having a 2nd one, especially if you at least somewhat want a 2nd child. Focus on the people in your life who support your decisions.

Super happy your daughter will have a sibling you come first and the family your building they will forever be grateful for you strength to do this pregnancy is hard and everything happens for a reason most importantly that both of you are happy 100 percent definitely won’t feel alone and love every second of it I find it as a blessing and god won’t give you nothing you can’t handle congratulations!!

You have plenty of life left to advance your career. You can chat with your family about your latest work developments at your daughter's 10th birthday party (and beyond). Congrats on having it all. It can be lonely at times, but there is nothing else like it. 😉🎉 Work on letting go of your internal judgement and others will follow your lead.

I think you should prioritize your happiness and mental health first above every other thing. Secondly if you could, have a conversation with them.Sometimes it might not be what you are thinking,perhaps your mind playing tricks on you.It may also be from a place of concern on their own part.They know you more than we do,they may have seen you struggle with the first and feel concerned about how you’d cope with the second. You are doing well Momma,be happy and embrace your new journey with positivity.

I'm sorry you're going through that. It can feel extra lonely when family isn't supportive or present. Sadly my family has been the same. I feel you.. So that my baby won't be alone I would love to have two under two because they'd be close in age and near to each other in school etc. At the end of the day, your immediate family is what matters the most imo. My husband's family is also the most supportive and present and that's something to be grateful for too, (although I feel the contrast more). Like others said, finding a community may help. Hoping the best for you and your second pregnancy journey 🤗

Never felt like this or been through this, but who cares what your family thinks, if they can’t support your decision that you and your own family made then you need to set boundaries. I’m a mother of two and it’s amazing, the bond my kids share adn they get to play with each other is way better than having one. Yea it’s a lot, but worth it. You get double the love. Kids are 2 yrs and 3 months apart. Anyone not supporting you, needs to be distanced.