I’m fuming!! Should I give in and make all the effort? Opinions please
So my dad never comes up to see my child and he always expects me to go down there and I cave and go see him, my mum comes up every Thursday to see my boy for a few hours but I’ve had enough of having to make the effort to see my dad just so that he can be part of my sons life.
Today he’s messaged asked if I’m going down as he thought I would of gone down to see him because it’s the bank holiday weekend and he hasn’t seen my son for around 3 weeks now as I’ve given up having to make the effort and now he’s fuming with me because he’s not seen my child for weeks now and making out it’s my fault that he’s not seen his grandchild!! Am I in the wrong for not going down to see him or should be making the effort to see his grandchild? I’ve had enough of feeling bad when I don’t feel like I’ve done anything wrong!! Why is your opinion
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@Emma he lives 10mins away and he drives a car there’s no excuse to why he can’t come round he always says because he works long hours during the week he just wants to chill at home all weekend but it’s not my fault he chooses to work his hours but always makes me think I should be running about after him. I’ve invited both my mum and dad round but they always say they are bus in their garden or shopping but always wants me to go to their house and I’ve had enough of doing it all the time x
Then it is up to them to come to you some of the time. I always stand that if someone won't make the effort to see your children, they won't be there if the sh*t hit the fan, so why bother? It needs to go both way x
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You're not in the wrong at all. He wants to see him, he should make an effort. Obviously different if there is something inhibiting him being able to come to you e.g. disabled. Try inviting him to visit you? Like, "No sorry, but you're welcome to come up to us?"