Am I oversensitive?

Oh both my parents treated me like absolute crap during my 2nd pregnancy, they have yet to even meet him yet and he’s 6 months- for reference they live 15 minutes away. They show zero interest in him, They asked nothing, they don’t even ask for pictures of him.

My brother also lives with my parents, and he is the same way never even met my son or asked a single thing about him. Honestly it’s just better to laugh about it because it sucks

Do you know if she wants kids one day? Or has fertility issues? Was she the same with your first or had she changed suddenly? I guess I always want to give people the benefit of the doubt. Have you been honest with her and asked if everything is okay? If it’s out of character do you think there’s something up perhaps? On the flip side some people just DGAF about kids and I’ve made my peace with that over the years but I guess totally much harder when it’s family ♥️

@Madeleine she has one child and hasn't wanted another. Tbh I think for a long time I've just been making all the effort that it's not until I took a step back that I actually notice how one sided it is. She rarely asks about my child, even if she knows she's ill. I haven't been honest with her as honestly she's quite argumentative and I just anticipate it would end up turning into a fight that I'd rather avoid atm

@Mariah it's so sad but I agree that it's sometimes better to laugh it off. I keep going between being really annoyed about it to thinking well if you don't care why should I

I understand this. My sister hasn’t reached out at all. But my sister announced my pregnancy instead of me to tons of people before I was ready to announce and when I got upset my dad told me I needed to let her because she was so excited to be an aunt….yet she hasn’t asked me one time how pregnancy is, what I’m having, etc, just told me she’d be dumping her cat on me for 2 weeks when I’m 37 weeks along 🤦🏼‍♀️

Totally get that it sounds like she’s fundamentally a bit self centred. You have other priorities now and whilst blood is thicker than water, you have your little family now, and if someone isn’t adding value to your life then why force it. Sounds like you already have tried anyway to no avail. I wouldn’t close the door (especially if you’re like me and hate confrontation) but focus on you and your health and one day she might realise what she’s lost, or she won’t.

Sometimes how people are being is more about them than you. She could have lots of thoughts/ feelings about your pregnancy that your not aware of which is making her quite distance. Depending on how your relationship is and how you want it to be, you could always just straight up ask her how she is feeling and what shes thinking and that you have noticed some distance etc. might put your mind at ease and even strengthen your relationship x

Could she be going through something personal.

I want to start by saying this isn’t directed at you personally, so please don’t take it that way. I’ve dealt with similar situations in my own family, and it breaks my heart to see kind, thoughtful people like you going above and beyond—only to end up questioning whether you’re being too sensitive or overreacting. The truth is, you’re not. Society often tells us that just because someone is family, we should always give them the benefit of the doubt. That we should keep going back, even when we’re repeatedly hurt or mistreated. But that’s simply not fair to you.

You have every right to set boundaries—for your own well-being and for your kids. From what you’ve described, this sounds like a one-sided, toxic relationship. And yes, if you decide to step away or limit contact, some people may try to paint you as the “bad guy.” But doing what’s necessary to protect your peace isn’t wrong—it’s brave. Being constantly available, offering emotional and physical support, without anything in return, can drain you. Healthy boundaries aren’t selfish; they’re essential. They help you be the best version of yourself and model healthier dynamics for your children. Honestly, I could tell you stories about my own family that would sound like something out of a soap opera. A while ago, I made the decision to cut ties for the sake of my mental health and focus on creating my own family, built on love and mutual respect. I haven’t regretted it for a second.

You deserve to surround yourself with people—family or not—who truly care for and support you. That old saying, “forgive them, they’re family,” can sometimes just be an excuse for people to keep treating others poorly. You don’t have to accept that. You get to choose your peace, and your people.

Sounds like she’s not considerate person