Did your partner change after kids?

If anyone changed it was me and he stayed the same. For better or worse 😖

So my partner didn’t change, and I think that’s what the issue was. He didn’t up his game, he didn’t help out more, he didn’t change his routine at all really 🫣 Which made my load heavier and me more moody and miserable… we’ve had to have a serious chat about it. 🥴 you’re not alone 😭xx

So I actually have a theory that because anger is one of the only “acceptable” uncomfortable emotions for men to display according to society, that a lot of dads adjusting to parenthood or adding a new child do get angrier because they’re actually overwhelmed or overstimulated or sad or feel inadequate, etc etc. Obviously I’m not saying this is ok; as an adult you have to recognize when you’re struggling and try to find ways to figure it out. Especially if they’re not doing their fair share of parenting.

I don't know if he changed, maybe I did but having kids just brought silent problems to the forefront and placed a huge emotional and physical strain on me.

It made us love each other more like tenfold

He was worse before we had kids. Now he way better now.

I just hate as a mom having to be put in a rock or a hard place because then I'm upset or I'm moody and then I'm the bad wife/gf it's like damn not mad at you all the time but you can do better (Towards the dad)