My 15 month old fights me, but not his dad SOS
Please sos. My son is almost 15 months and has always fallen asleep soooo much faster for my husband/his dad than me. But the last few months, it takes me over an hour every single time. To the point that I have to end up just asking my husband to take over. I feel like I’ve tried everything and I’m so so drained. He’s currently dropping from two to one naps, but again, this has been going on for months now. And now he’s teething again, so he’s also bitting me nonstop while nursing. I used to bounce him on a yoga ball, but as he’s gotten older, he now hates it and will throw himself backwards and scream. I’ve tried singing/humming, stroking his hair, baby wearing, baby sleep sacks/sleep walkers, listening to music, listening to rain sounds, using a fan, turning off the fan, little night light, no light, etc. And he always wants to nurse to sleep with me, which is fine, but still takes over an hour. My husband just lays down, plays a baby sensory sleep video on YouTube and my son literally climbs onto the bed (floor bed), snuggles into him, and falls asleep within 10 minutes max. I’ve also tried these videos, but again, it doesn’t change the time it takes with me.
Hey there mama! I’m sorry you’re struggling. It sounds like your little one is giving you a hard time because he ultimately wants to nurse to sleep and that’s not an option for dad. You don’t have to stop nursing him altogether but it would help to break the nursing to sleep connection so that he’s not associating that with the only way to get to sleep (for you). Even though your husband is able to get him to sleep much faster, watching a video to fall asleep really isn’t a long term solution. If you want to cosleep or lay with him to get to sleep then I would have Dad eliminate the video and lay with him to sleep. When you’ve broken the nursing to sleep connection you could try just laying with him. Otherwise I think you should consider sleep training him so that he’s able to get to sleep on his own. Then it won’t matter who puts him down at bedtime, he’ll have the skills to do it on his own. Not sure if you’re ready for that but it really is life changing.