Husband is pissing me off

I’m so sick of doing everything alone. He will be off the next two or so months, his work ethic is always trash anyhow…so feels like he’s always finding ways to be off…he refused to go to an important appointment I made for him today (3rd time rescheduled) and threw a fit like a child about it when I tried to stay firm and tell him he couldn’t bail and then got shitty with his language towards me and kicked me out of the room making all kinds of stupid threats. The house is a mess, I’m behind on work and watching kids and he sits on his ass and contributes nothing at all. Then has the nerve to make comments about what kind of snacks I bought that he doesn’t prefer and ask for meals. We have a yard that needs cut, we have a car that needs to be washed and cleaned out, we have laundry to be done, things to be put away, trash to be taken out…our bumper is dangling and needs to be fixed…is he going to do anything at all on his own accord? Of course not. I swear to god I’m so sick of living like a single mom over here and he seriously thinks I’m in the wrong for getting frustrated with him? I was in the wrong for insisting he go to an important appointment like an adult? I want a real fucking man. I should have just skipped the fun and married a mature older guy, this shit is so irritating. How can anyone just sit around and let the so called person they love suffer through so many tasks while caring for several young children, cooking AND WORKING FROM HOME and you just do absolutely nothing but play on a phone, computer and watch movies?? It’s fucking wild. It’s like I have a rebellious teenage boy…I actually know many teenage boys that are more helpful and respectful. Ugh