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I have a 3 year old and 1 year old who still wakes often at night. Since I am on baby duty, dad is on toddler duty. It works well for our family. Baby actually prefers dad for naps but will scream if it’s dad at bedtime. Dad also tends to do bedtime for the toddler because he is better at holding boundaries and not having bedtime last forever. It helped us that I worked nights for a time and daddy had to get good at bedtime. I understand wanting to be able to help either, but I find divide and conquer works really well for us. Sometimes it’s not the kid’s preference, but that is not the end of the world
@Charlotte ah bless you, sorry it’s so hard but glad it’s not just me. I’m often feeding the baby back to sleep if my toddler is wakes too and I often can’t get him back down in his cot so I can’t go to my toddler at all. I always make sure I’ve had 10 minutes with my toddler after his bath though just me and him reading stories before dad takes over bedtime (as the baby is aaaalways screaming for the boob before bed). It seems impossible!! How old is your toddler? Think we need to tell ourselves that we are doing our best! It’s so hard though seeing those little eyes on the monitor saying muuuummy, and I can’t go 💔 Ps on the topic of feeding the baby back to sleep… do you do this everytime yours wakes? Mine is up every 1-2 hours and he’s so chunky, people keep commenting how big he is and I’m sure it’s because he feeds ALL night 🤣 x
My toddler is 3.5 and baby now 11 months. Yes, I always feed back to sleep, it's the quickest and easiest way! I'm actually a breastfeeding counselor too so I know it's biologically normal and right! You should be proud that your milk made that chunky baby! 🥰
Hey, it's hard! So hard 😭 there are times my toddler is screaming in the other room that he wants me, but I'm feeding the baby back to sleep 😭. I always promise him I'll come in as soon as the baby is settled. And even if he's gone back to sleep, I make sure I go and just give him a kiss or tell him I love him. There came a point too, that I just gave in and let him in my bed... I end up with the baby one side, him the other, and my husband in the toddlers bed 😂 we also used to take it in turn for bedtime, but recently it's just been me doing bedtime which I think actually helps him accept dad more in the night, because he had me at bedtime. I don't know, but I do know, it's hard. So just sending you some love and hugs.