Baby will not settle

White noise always worked a treat for both of mine if you haven't tried it already, I could just be his age as well, they go through a stage call 'purple crying' or something, apparently it's a developmental thing and it will eventually stop 😅

@Vikkie ive not tried that he has a lullaby we have played since he was born and he went to sleep instantly but not any more 😢 I hate white noise freaks me out 😂

Yeah my other half hates it too hahah, I get the bed to myself usually if I play white noise cos he'll go sleep on the sofa, so if i ever want to starfish in bed its like my secret weapon haha 😂 there's some on Spotify that are more like lullabies with white noise so it's not quite as bad ha, my two love anything like that, i used to stick my 1st near the washing machine when it was on, and if im ever blow drying my hair they're fast on in minutes 😂

@Vikkie its just a nightmare i cant get anything done through the day and me and partner argue over it because he comes home from work and thinks i have been sat on my butt all day

Hopefully it will pass for you soon! I feel you, its really hard being a mum sometimes, especially at the start, but hang in there i promise it will get better even if you're pulling your hair out now 😅 The house will be clean again one day, the wash baskets won't be overflowing and the dishes won't be piled in the sink, and you will find time yourself again! As for your partner, has he ever had baby on his own for a day? Mine was similar when we had our first, until I went out for the first time over night when he was about 3 months old, he got a right bloody shock! Occasionly now if the house is a mess and I'm still in my pjs etc he might say 'what have i been doing all day' but i simply gesture the kids and hes like 'true' and shuts himself up 😂

Get yourself a baby carrier! They still get the comfort of being on you and you have two hands free! My absolute life saver. Your baby hasn’t got the capability to manipulate you into holding them yet, so I wouldn’t worry about them getting used to it! They just need the comfort of being close! X

@Vikkie I hope so. I hate going out of the house and have to force myself to. I stayed in for a full week because I just couldnt do it with little one screaming constantly I was crying and just wanted to lock myself away 😢. No my partner has never had him on his own I have always had to get a babysitter because my partner panics if hes screaming and he has a short fuse and starts kicking off and I cant have him be like that around him so its easier just to get a baby sitter 😔 he never helped when I came home from hospital either. I did all night feeds, nappy changes etc on my own for around a month to the point where I made myself poorly. I have epilepsy and if I stress or dont get enough sleep I can have a seizure but he clearly didnt care when it happened then we had a huge arguement and I left and went to my mums and he promised he would change and help but hes done it a couple of times if that x

@Sophie I have one that my sister in law gave me but hes still tiny even though he will be 3 months old next week. He was born very small and still small 😂 when I put him in it because he is small his head is leaning against the straps and rubbing his face so cant really use it yet x

@Chelsy wow that's not fair at all. He needs to pull his finger out and step up, it shouldn't be all on you he's his baby as well! You should be proud of yourself, its incredibly difficult and overwhelming especially when you're having to do everything on your own, you deserve a hell of a lot better! I hardly left the house with my first, im trying to more now but its hard sometimes, have you tried to get into a baby group or anything? I went to one and it forced me to get out the house and made me feel tonnes better speaking to other mums, had to force myself somedays but made me feel better knowing other people were in the same boat Do you have much support from friends and family? I really hope your chap steps up, I wouldn't be able to put up with it, not fair on you or baby, chin up, you're doing great ❤️

@Vikkie he has started helping a little bit more but no where near as much as he should. I dont leave the house unless I am going to my mums or visiting friends at work and sometimes I dont want to do that. I havent really looked into it not sure where there would be one near me. Yes my family help me a lot but I shouldnt have to rely on them all the time 😢 thank you I dont feel like I am doing well always think I am a failure xx

Hopefully he'll get his butt in gear a bit more soon, tbf my partner really got into in all a bit more when baby was a bit older, he didn't flap as much if he was crying etc, im sure it will get better for you! 🥰 I dont think I left house properly on my own until mine was a fair few months old, your babys still new you're both still getting used to this new world and it's a pretty big adjustment! And let's be honestly its sometimes more effort than it's worth trying to get out the house 😅😂 I go to baby bloom in garforth, its really good, they have one in rothwell which I think is closer to you, but I went there with my first and now with my 2nd, its great! Totally recommend it, there's also baby beats in rothwell which I'm starting next week which looks fun! Xx

@Vikkie fingers crossed 🤞yeah i feel like my partner will be more at ease when hes older. I would love to go on more walks with little one get him in the fresh air but because he doesnt settle and screams through the day I can never get myself or anything else ready to go because I have to sort him out. Aww they are quite far for me would be 2 buses to rothwell and its a nightmare getting ready as it is lol xx