Night feedings
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Most babies are not sleeping through the night yet. Your friends must have unicorn babies. I have a friend that has one too. My baby just had her first night sleeping 5 hours and then went back to 3hrs with 2 hr stretches after that, the next night. Last night it was every 2 hours. Can you pump right before bed and have your husband feed him the first time? If you haven’t introduced the bottle, maybe now is a good time. My first baby didn’t sleep through the night until almost 6 months. Hang in there. It will get better. Babies have a growth spurt at 3 months, that might be what it is, so don’t deny feedings.
3-4 month sleep regression is a thing, it hit us hard. Even at 6 months my son is really only sleeping in 5ish hour stretches. Most babies are not sleeping through the night, they're truly not meant to.....multiple wake ups is actually a safety precaution against SIDS. He may also be able to smell your milk if you're sleeping close to him. My son sleeps a million times better/longer if he's in his crib vs his bassinet in our room because he can't smell my milk.
Most babies absolutely do NOT sleep through the night at 6 weeks lol. Please stop comparing yourself to other people. It’s completely normal for a baby to wake up every 2 hours for a feeding and a diaper change. Especially as a newborn. The most important thing is to sleep when the baby is sleeping even if it’s just 30 minutes because it’s obviously an around the clock thing, eventually your body will adapt to the changes. And eventually your baby will sleep longer stretches, mine didn’t start sleeping 4-5 hours UNTIL 3.5 months. The crucial time to get your baby used to sleeping at night is maximizing that time during the day. And I know it sucks while you’re sleepy and just want to nap. But if you can push through and try to keep your baby awake and alert for longer stretches during the day, only offer 2-3 naps they should go down once and for all by like 11 pm
I wish I had better news but it all depends on the baby. My son is still up every 3-5 hours and he’s 13 months old. Also do not stop feeding in the night at 3 months you should continue to feed until a year if they are waking up for food.
You’re not doing anything wrong. What a lot of people don’t realize is that the majority of babies do what your son is doing. It’s not nearly as common for babies to sleep through the night so early. My son was the same way, it’s perfectly normal. It’s so hard for us but there’s really only so much you can do ❤️
Oh mama that was meeee to a T. I had to learn to safely co-sleep to get any rest. You are not alone at all. It’s so so hard and I see how hard you are trying. You are a good mama 🩷
I read “precious little sleep” while being in the 3 month old- awake every 3 hrs to comfort feed trenches and now that he’s 4 months I’m planning a custom sleep night schedule/technique based off what I read and what I think he’s ready for. He’s crazy associated feed with sleep and reading that book really helped me feel like it was a temporary issue and not forever. Also, if your husband can help out it would help because your baby doesn’t associate your husband with nursing. Good luck 🫶
My baby woke up every 2 hours until she was 24mo. What helped us was bedsharing, napping together, making sure we both were eating iron rich foods (once she started solids at 6mo), and implementing strategies for me to get more rest. I got a postpartum doula who was a lifesaver. My husband also took our daughter at 5am-9am to ensure i always had a 4 hour stretch of uninterrupted sleep. Every baby is different - sleep is developmental and your baby will sleep longer stretches when they are ready. 3 months old seems really young to consider night weaning/restricting feeds.
Unfortunately this is completely normal. My 10 month old is exactly the same and they use the breast for multiple reasons, not just for feeding. It’s tough but I just accepted it as part of being a breastfeeding mum. I definitely wouldn’t deny the breast until you are certain they don’t need night feeds and that’s about a year old.
Girl pls don’t beat yourself up. YOUR BABY IS NOT SUPPOSED TO SLEEP THROUGH THE NIGH!! I am 1 year pp breastfeeding fully and my girl still wake up at least one a night. It’s normal!! Your baby was inside of you feeding off of you for 9 months and you expect him to sleep on his own all night? Anyone who tell you that is feeding their baby formula. And being on filler is def going to make your baby fuller. But breastfeeding is a choice you make. Same goes as being a mom!! My best advice. Put yourself in your baby shoes! And understand what it like being him! Stop overthinking. And since you are breastfeeding it’s easier just bedsharing and feed sideways. You both can sleep and your baby can feed and back to sleep. I slept without a shirt on the entire year. You can do it! AND STOP COMPARING YOUR BABY TO OTHERS. Stop going on social media! Pick up a book. Connect with your baby!!
Every baby is different love. Don't let that bother you. My son is 15 months old and still doesn't sleep through the night.
Everyone’s babies are different, my 10 month old still doesn’t fully sleep through the night! We’re up every 3-4 hours for a feed still. Boys are more known for not being great sleepers. I wouldn’t deny him feeds even if he is comfort feeding as he is still very young to be sleeping through the night fully. What I’ve found worked best for us is doing 2 big feeds an hour apart before bed (also keeping them up a bit longer than a usual wake window). If you’re sure he’s only waking up for comfort feeds, it might be worth a try to put a t-shirt with some of your milk on it in the bed with him (either under him or close enough that he can smell it) as he may just want to feel close to you! It’s tough but babies aren’t meant to sleep through the night at such a young age! If you’re able to catch up on your sleep through the day, start your day later, and have early nights! things around the house can wait