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I feel like I am the only one who signed up for this! I am the only one who’s not getting sleep the only one who’s not showering I haven’t done my nails in ages i have grey hair I feel like I am losing myself I love my child don’t get me wrong but where is meeee in the picture! My husband helps he’s the one providing but no matter how much help I get I feel it’s not enough the responsibility is all on me. I know I sound silly and immature but I want to finish my dinner properly I want to sit with people when we have a gathering and be able to actually sitttt with them. Ugh that’s it lol I am done I feel better writing all this down

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I feel you! I remember crying and yelling “I have no life” at my husband It’s a bit better now, but yea I miss being able to sitttt with people :)))

How old is your child? It gets better mine just turned 3. I will never have another because I feel like I am at max capacity with responsibility. I had a period where I resented my husband for keeping his life the same while my world got flipped upside down, but I guess I either got used to the change or it's not as bad anymore. There are some things I did for example whenever we go to restaurants since my husband eats ways faster than me I would let him eat first then hand him the baby while I take my merry time. Whenever I am overwhelmed screentime is my solution. I go out once a month for movies and dinner with my friend. We go to parks and playgrounds as a family so my husband can help with the responsibilities of a toddler out in public. Try and see what works for you and remember you are only human and your feelings are valid

I’m sorry you are feeling that way. Try and have a in-depth conversation with your husband detailing the support you need. Parental responsibility should fall on both parents and you should never feel all alone . I also encourage you to take breaks when needed. Stop trying to be everything for everyone and nurture yourself by practicing self care: meditation, creating, dancing, singing etc. You should also consider scheduling non negotiable days where you focus on your mental wellbeing, physical, emotional etc.

You're not silly or immature. It's infuriating that your husband "helps" instead of taking full responsibility like take the kid so you can finish a meal.

Hi, I’m in a similar boat. My husband provides finances but all the work is on me. He tries but our son Jack at 6 months prefers me? Maybe I’m not wording it right but seems like my husband misses his cues & isn’t as confident with feedings & comforting. It’s definitely hard & I’m here if you need to vent. I’m in Brooklyn & appreciate being here vs living in the suburbs of CT where we used to live!

Oh & his mom is livid that we moved to a walking part of Brooklyn! We live 2 blocks from the parks & since I’m doing majority of the work I should get some grace from her.

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