Why are men so hypocritical
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This is a him problem and he needs to grow up. The silent treatment is what teens do. I'm the very blunt and straightforward person in our relationship. However when my husband gives it back it does sting a bit but I'm mature enough to listen and apologize or admit that yeah I messed up. I might be blunt but I also know how to talk to him without blaming him for things. There is a big difference between "you always do this" and "it bothers me when you do this" My intention is never to hurt his feelings just to point out something that upsets me.
I’m so sorry mama, Just reading this already makes me feel frustrated for you. Does this kind of thing happen often? I obviously don’t know your husband personally, but from what you shared, it kind of sounds like he might have some narcissistic traits. And honestly, with people like that, being open about your own feelings doesn’t always work they either don’t get it or twist it back on you. One idea , have you ever thought about keeping a journal and letting him read it? Sort of like mirror therapy. It might help him see himself more clearly through your words.
Your husband should not feel comfortable hurting your feelings especially if you are looking him dead in the eye and telling him what he is doing/ saying is hurting my feelings. Choose the right time preferably at night in bed when it’s just the two of you and have an intimate chat with him. Let him know you want to have healthy communication with him. Let him know you are both a team and you want to support him. Then listen to what he says. If he’s only focused on himself in the response or blame then write back on here 😂 there’s more work to do 😅 but if he wants the same things you want then the stepping stone is there 💛
This isn't an all men thing, your husband is being mean for no reason. He sounds like a man child being mean to you and then giving you the silent treatment when you're "honest" back. It's time for him to grow up.
My husband never hurts my feelings, and if he ever does it’s totally unintentional. It honestly sounds like your husband is just being mean/cruel for no reason. Even worse, he can’t hack it when you give it back and the silent treatment is extremely manipulative and immature. I can see why you are fed up!