Am I being selfish?
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Whaaaat? 10 days postpartum & on Mother’s Day? Nope. Your husband needs to send some flowers, make a nice phone call telling her happy Mother’s Day and then focus on you. YOU are the active duty mother right now. Grandmas are to be celebrated, but not at the expense of the active mother. Nope nope nope.
It’s not selfish. You shouldn’t have to cater to someone else especially after a new baby regardless of it being Mother’s Day
If she lives near could you husband take her out for a meal on the Saturday or something. Or "celebrate" the weekend after
Not selfish AT ALL another mother should understand that.
@Shay I feel bad cause she hasn’t seen the baby yet but no one had besides my mom but she comes over every to help. I don’t want her to think that I don’t want her to see baby, I just don’t want it to be this weekend ugh. Idk how to tell her in a nice way tho 🙁
@Chylee any tips on how to tell her without hurting her feelings?
@Amanda right! It’s just way to soon! I’m just hanging out in my pj’s and robe all day and now I feel like I will have to get myself together and hang out downstairs with her. I’ll be 2weeks pp on Sunday, like give me some time 😒
@Rachel she lives a ferry ride away, her whole commute is about 4 hours 😫
@Mamax2 😞😞😞
Sending the best support possible. ❤️
@Mamax2 thank you 😫
You are 10 days pp. They can leave you alone if you want to and respect that
That was me, my niece and her son would just come into my house without even me knowing. I had to put my foot down and say no I need to be left alone as I have a toddler and a new baby i will rather deal with my kids alone as I know that she comes to see my house that it’s a mess and I live on pjs and going around gossiping about my situation so I don’t need her in my house.
My parents aren't alive and my family isn't in my life but my mil is crazy. She does respect our space though when we communicate it. My husband's family knows I'll decide when we want to be visited after this 2nd baby. The first I obviously was more lenient with his folks but this time I'm prioritizing MY mental health lol
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I’m not the best with that haha but just be honest! Tell her you’re still feeling really run down from just freshly giving birth and don’t feel up to a long visit. You can always have your husband do it as well. He actually should since it’s his mother.
No you’re not selfish. Tell her she can come another time. Why does she have to come this weekend ? It’s your time with your family.