Don't know what to do

I noticed my husband has been acting differently, so I looked through his phone. I saw that past week he has been talking to his coworker from another state. I know they talked here and there. Although this past week, it took a turn without me knowing they have talked hrs on the phone and endless messages. Like I love you, miss you, can't wait to go on our date when I come in town in July. Or have him go to Washington tell me it's for work so I won't come a long. I know he hasn't done anything with her. I know for a fact there have not been any other girls. Him and I have been together for 10 1/2 years and have a 2 yr old. I love him so much, and tonight, when I confronted him, he let me end it with her. She tried to tell me that's how she talked to all of her friends. I'm like than no wonder your going through a divorce. He told me he was glad I caught and was able to stop it since he got so deep and didn't know how to stop it. I don't know what to do. I'm soooo torn. My mom stuck half of her money she got from selling her house, which it wasn't a lot since it got split 3 way. She stuck it down this summer so we can buy a house. I can't afford it without him. I don't really want to leave him, but now I have majore trust issues.

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He’s lying to you. He could have ended it any time by blocking her. I love you from him to someone else is utterly unforgivable. I’m sure he knows he can’t afford the house without you either and once you buy the house you’re even more stuck with a guy who has shown you absolutely no respect Don’t blame her she owes you nothing, he owes you everything. If it’s innocent on his behalf then .. Why was he suggesting a trip and lying to you about the reasons Why was he saying you couldn’t go along Why was he saying I love you !!! Even the fact he let you “end it “ rather than doing it himself says to me he can msg her this evening and say sorry she found out but I still feel the same. Don’t trust this man

100% agree with every single word and comma from Emily. You love him so much... great... I'm sorry but HIS love and heart are no longer with you. You won't leave and now he will play with you like a freakin' yoyo. You need to be aware of the current situation and find your self worth and walk away...

I'm sorry, but it's not adding up. "I miss you"? Lie about the nature of a trip? No way. If she talked like that with all the guys and it was innocent, it'd sound more like her enjoying your city or offering to buy him lunch (and not dinner!). Can I see from his pov that maybe it went to far and he wasn't sure where to draw the line? Yeah, maybe. Sometimes you're forced to work with "pushy" people and hes just being polite and doing his job but his responses to her advances are very important and inexcusable. I'd be upset.

The fact she is getting a divorce is a red flag … hmmm Although you “ended things” they have other ways to contact each other, trust me . I was once the other woman , and these men usually have a hard time letting the “other woman” go, the guy still messages me till this day, but I’ve mastered ignoring/blocking his BS. And in my case I didn’t know he was married until I was emotionally invested because they don’t have kids & they didn’t live together at the time.

Don’t let him off easy definitely make him earn your trust again and work back towards what you use to have or he’ll do it again. While y’all work on in work on another income so you’re not with him for financial reasons

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