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This is so common when becoming a mom. It feels almost impossible to be 'you'. Getting out of the house helps me so much. Even with my kids. Going to the park or library or play place. It helps me mentally. We don't have a ton of extra money for me to go out and get pampered and have me time. My husband is also good about giving me alone time on his days off. I just go upstairs in our room and enjoy my quiet time. Just remember, this is the hard part of parenting. One day your baby will be grown and you will have nothing but time for yourself, and you will miss having someone to care for. Remind yourself this is just a phase. The early years are tough. You give, give, give, and you rarely receive. Hang in there mama
It sucks. I sure am not gunna sugar it up for you. I have a ten year old and a 16 month old. My husband is not that hands on and I feel stretched thin. The best advice I can give is slow down. Embrace the slow time. Some days the only down time I get is when I nurse the baby. ( I didn’t expect to be nursing this long either—- the baby had other plans) Talk to a friend. Let baby play independently. Vent when needed to trusted friend. Sometimes just eat the ice cream, enjoy the milkshake. It’s the little things. This time can be hard. Just remember it will pass.
I didn't think id have to rebuild my identity after moving out and building my career. So doing it again in my thirties has been a challenge. I'm right there with you. I'm working on carving out time for what I want that helps me feel me. Even if it involves my daughter. We do it because mommy wants to not because baby or daddy want to. That's helping
Have you tried waking up early so you can have some alone time? Get a workout in, bible study, or just read a book you have been wanting to read or a show you want to watch. This is normally what my morning routine looks like I have baby number three on the way in my third trimester so it’s not every morning like it used to be but it definitely helps me and if you’re able to get like a couple hours to yourself on the weekend to do whatever you want helps also.