Should i leave my partner?
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Agree with the above! Well said Nez. You deserve someone who supports you not acts like another child in your life. Him doing the school run isn’t a favour for you, they’re his kids to! X
Never ever stay for the children. The quality of a child’s life is based off of the quality of the mother’s happiness…. Look into it. Not if the father is present or not. I was blown away yet comforted at the same time after doing my research. Staying cause more damage than anything. Good luck!
I agree with Nez. If you decide to leave and move to your dad’s, and if your partner wants to see the kids, you ask him to come over. And state the reason that he wouldn’t be able to manage taking care of them on his own full time anyways even for a day. Also talk to your family about it, what they think about the entire situation and if they’re fine with you moving in. This way they’ll be prepared too and it wouldn’t come as a shock. If your partner is not helping in any way, there’s nothing to lose when you leave.
Speaking from experience, staying just for the kids is rarely the right choice. If you and your partner are both willing to work as a team and genuinely invest in improving the relationship, it’s worth trying. But the longer you stay in a situation that’s not working, the more resentment builds and that’s something you’ll eventually have to confront and heal from. Based on your post, it seems like you may have already made your decision.
I would 100% leave esp if I knew I would have more support at my dads. Why should it be your responsibility to look after all of the kids? He sounds like an absolute lazy piece of shit. I would put my self first and take my kids to my dads and if he wants to be in their life he will have to make the trip and leave to take his pathetic existence home