Feeling completely burnt out
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In regard to constant house work I find doing one room at a time helps even if that’s one room a day and when babe naps I sit down and relax and forget about the house work, I’ll hoover when she’s having breakfast or dinner so she’s off the floor and I’ll do washing whilst she’s playing etc but if I feel like I’m getting overwhelmed with the house work I stick with one room at a time rather then trying to do bits all around the house at once, but I always stick by that when baby naps I have ‘me’ time house work can wait it will still be there but yourself takes priority over jobs any day! Xx
So Sorry to hear this. If it were me I would find a moment to write down exactly how I feel and show it to my husband. Maybe pop it in his bag if he’s going to work so he had some time to digest what you’re saying. You are one of two parents and you cannot do it alone, it sounds like you’ve tried but he has to step up. I found being in the company of other women really helpful when struggling and feeling low- if you haven’t already seek out as many local groups as possible- coffee mornings, stay and plays, churches, children’s centres - it is possible to build a bit of a village. If you’re London or Surrey based drop me a PM.
Sounds so tough. I moved back from living in Australia when I was pregnant as I knew I’d need my village. I’ve needed a lot of help so I appreciate how difficult it can be. I have a pretty well behaved baby (not so much of late!) but it’s still hard and endless. I’m off work for 4 days now and have a HUGE to do list to accomplish. I just have to see what’s essential and what can wait. I took myself off when baby was 15 weeks old as I needed a break. I know that’s not what others may want to do but I did and it was a great re set! Inbox always open if you want to get it all out 💜 Take care
I find nursery is a break for me. I’m still working ironically but I work from home 2 days a week and that’s when I can get a lot of stuff done / take a longer lunch to do house jobs or have an hour with a cuppa and a programme uninterrupted x
Thanks everyone I managed to deep clean my house when baby was sleeping yesterday and I’ve woken up feeling better. I think my mental health is directly correlated with how clean my house is otherwise I get overwhelmed especially when juggling a baby. I’ve also spoken to my husband and told him I am seriously feeling run down and hopefully this got through to him.
Could you get a nanny or a babysitter for a couple of hours a week so you have some time to yourself? Just time for self care or to catch up on sleep? Also, have you considered getting some professional help to maybe find other coping strategies or help to find some relief?