How’s your relationship going?

Hi Mamas, I’ve been struggling a lot in my relationship recently. Before having a baby, things were so great.. but now… we are holding on by threads. I absolutely love my baby and I know he does too - however we’ve been arguing a lot more and making nasty remarks at each other. I try to do everything myself, from looking after the baby, cooking, cleaning, sorting laundry - all he does is go work, shower eat and sleep. I literally have to ask him to look after our baby for 5mins just so I can have a breather or stretch my body. He says I’m useless and how he can’t stand me? He keeps mentioning how he needs alone time but he literally has ALONE TIME all the time. I can’t tell if I’m going crazy, if it’s my hormones or if we really just need to end things. My baby is only two months old and I would hate to make crazy decisions if this will only be temporary.. Has anyone else experienced same/similar changes PP?

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Yes!! All of this and more. I left him 2 weeks ago (for the second time since our baby was born) and I can't bring myself to go back to him because of everything that has happened. I don't want to be a single mum with a partner (because that's what I felt like). Feel free to message me if you want a private chat about it x

Going through the exact same!

It’s such a big change. My partner and I struggled initially, especially with sleepless nights. Couples therapy really helped us

Having children really does change the dynamic of a relationship, navigating less sleep, increased finances, time for one another whilst your body is undergoing physical and hormonal changes. I'm a single mother for all the reasons you mentioned and some. But honestly speaking two months is too soon to make that call, try talking, making time for each other, remembering why you fell in love with one another....therapy, rotas/assigned task/free time. Explore every option before throwing in the towel and hopefully you can reignite that spark again ♥️

I also went through a very hard patch with my husband. we have been married for almost 5 years now! But with our son he does a lot, even cleans and helps me with our baby sometimes, gets the groceries so I don’t have to drive with my son, he does a lot. But we still would fight quite a bit. You have to remember you both are probably massively sleep deprived and there are going to be a lot of frustrating moments. But I would suggest trying to talk things out before calling it any sort of quits

I’m in the same boat as you right now..

I want to leave my child’s father, he’s more stress than peace. My baby is only 6 months but I’m trying to hold on. Our first couples therapy session was yesterday soooo we’ll see how this goes

Also mama, I’m sorry that you’re going through this. You don’t deserve none of the treatment you’re getting and you’re most certainly not useless. He can’t even do half the stuff you’re doing while being home. Honestly I stopped giving af and do less now. I no longer go above and beyond for my “man”

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