Not enjoying motherhood rn

I feel so awful even writing this but rn I’m not enjoying being his mum. I know he needs me and I’ll always be there but everything is such a chore and a challenge. Refusing food constantly and throwing it on the floor. So I’m stressing he’s not eating and going to loose weight, having arguments with my partner over it. Not sleeping at night and then working all day. I drive home and just dread the night routine I have to do because I know it’s going to be painful. I’m so tired, overstimulated you name it. Babe is constantly ill and deep down that worry’s me that he hasn’t got anything serious or life threatening. I love him so much but life is hard rn and I can’t see light at the end of the tunnel. How do you stay calm through all of this? Anyone been here before? It’s not just me is it 😩😩

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It’s not just you. Being a mother is one of the hardest things in the world. It’s like working two full time jobs, 7 days a week. It’s mentally and emotional difficult and you are doing an amazing job! How old is your LO? Have you got any one that you can talk to for help? I have recently started to talk to someone about my MH and that has made a huge difference. I know you have probably been to the doctor about your LO but perhaps keep pushing to be seen. As although I imagine he is fine, never go against your gut! Message me if you need someone to talk too xxx

@Kirsty he is 16 months old. Don’t really have anyone to talk to and whoever I do talk to thinks I’m mad and being stressy about it all xx

You need a mental break! Is your baby able to stay at a family members house for a weekend?

Or is your partner able to pick up some slack for you to recover?

Omg, honestly, rn, I could have written this myself. My husband and I actually had an argument yesterday because he feels I’ve been distant. IM F--KING TIRED! LO is 15mo and I work more or less full time; 4 days a week 6-4 and most Friday mornings 6-10. My husband works 2pm-10pm or later if he can do overtime Mon-Thurs, 12-6 or 7pm on Fridays and most Saturday mornings.. So although my husband takes care of the mornings and getting Bub to my MIL or daycare. But he gets to go back home and sleep till he has to get ready for work if he really wants to. I do the pick up, bath, dinner, and everything else bubba needs before he goes to bed. BUT it doesn’t end there. Then I still have to cook dinner, tidy the kitchen, do the dishes, laundry to wash, more laundry to fold and put away and that’s before I even think about getting groceries or any other part of the house that needs cleaning. It. Just. Never. Ends. But apparently it does get better I keep getting told. We got this hun!

I also get told (by husband) that it’s ‘not right’ that sometimes I just don’t want to be touched anymore! I’ve never felt like that before. But after being cried to, fort with and climbed over all day long. I just need some space too. ‘He’s your son!’ Yeah, no shit. Doesn’t mean I don’t have limits to what I can tolerate…

@Trish oh yeah I get I don’t feel like you want me anymore or we hardly do anything now. Tbh having ‘adult-time’ I cba for because I watch the clock go round and think I could be asleep now 😩🤣

@Nicole he already says he does his part…

@Asia my partner wouldn’t want that to happen

Sorry to hear you can’t speak to anyone. Have you tried your Health visiter? As that’s what I did and was given support that way.

It’s super hard, my boy is 10 months old and he’s being so whiney bum and it’s grating on me so much! He also is so attached to me which is super cute but he just constantly wants me to pick him up and climb on me and his dad tries to take him and he still whines to come to me and I’m like that’s fine come to me then but please shut up 😭🤣🤣 so I feel you girl!!

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