Constantly disappointed

I'm just feeling frustrated and need to vent but would also love advice or input. I'm just so tired of feeling disappointed by my husband. It's never anything big, just when he says he's going to do something and doesn't. For example, he took the kids to get me a mother's Day gift and said he'd be happy to bring me dinner. Great right, so I stay home, and he texts me an outfit for my daughter that he saw and asks whether or not he should get it. I'm just thinking, make a decision man. Anyway, then I don't hear from him so in my head he's getting food and maybe for the first time not asking what I want and just getting me something he knows I'll like. He pulls up with nothing and my heart sinks. Like seriously. Of course he apologized, said I thought you were just going to make yourself something. He then goes to pick up dinner for me. I know it seems trivial, but it's things like this that have happened before. Or his reactions to things. For example, I've been trying different lipsticks lately. I've never been the girly girl, and have just been wanting to experiment. Anyway, I got this really pretty matte red recently and I loved it, I thought I looked hot. He doesn't say a thing to me when he sees, not a whisper. I mention how it hurt my feelings that he didn't say anything, and he's like oh it's nice is it a lip stick or stain. I then go on to tell him the difference and hes like I don't care about that sort of thing. Later I tell him how that entire interaction really hurt my feelings, a. he didn't care about my look and b. He didn't give a shit about what I had to say. I guess overall I just feel unhappy and I really don't know what to do. I've talked to him about these things and I'm just really feeling down about it all lately. Like it's been a lot recently and it's just piling up. I'm not trying to hold grudge against these things and am trying to just let it all go. Thanks for reading, like I said I know these are trivial compared to other things it's just been weighing me down lately.
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Sorry to hear you’re going through this. Sounds like he was maybe always like this, and maybe you notice it more since kids? My friend told me he and his wife had major problems after the birth of their baby so went to couples therapy, which helped a lot. My bestie also goes to virtual couples therapy with her hubby for years now & it seems to help with their communication. Do you think he’d he open to that? My ex forgot my birthday about 3-4 different times, so I sadly got used to being disappointed. It wasn’t a healthy way for me to continue but that was just one of many reasons to leave . Hoping things get better with communication. 💞💐

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