Genuine question

So, im pro circumcision and imma say that is a weird point to make. Like im with you, why are you thinking like that? Especially about a baby? 🫠 thats just, wow lol.

@Brianna righttttt. Like I’m pro-it’s-your-kid-not-mine-so-idc, but it’s just odd to me and I’ve seen so many posts asking for opinions lately which is just a complete breeding ground for that thought process

So so so so weird

Might get hate for this but other points that I kinda do understand but still also makes me a little 🤨 is the whole “my husband has the the parts so it’s his choice” and “he’s dad is/isn’t so we want him to look like that” Like as a man I get they have more experience with their own but as a mama it’s still your baby, your likely going to be doing the majority of child rearing etc. I also understand that dad may have more first hand knowledge in whichever way they are and could be confusing to be different but why is that a deciding factor? How often is your son going to be comparing himself/looking at his dads?

@Sharnee Yes! This also! I find this statement/argument weird too. Like I get it if your not completely comfortable and if your spouse is like 100 for it or 100 against and you let them decide bc they have a bigger opinion than you do, but it's your child also. If you have an opinion on it then it should be up to both parents not just dad bc "he has the parts" and def not the statement "well his dad got it done so I want it to look like his"... Like thats just as weird as the argument that it's "more attractive "... Like be for it or be against it, its up to parents discretion is my belief, but have an actual logical reason to back you up on it, not something so superficial and just plain weird. 🤣🤣🫠

@Sharnee I totally understand your point on that too. I told my husband at one point in time he could decide because I wasn’t sure but he actually encouraged me to do my own research on it and then eventually we came together and talked about it and made our decision as a team. Which is how I think that parents should do it.

100% like WTF… my first I let his dad my ex decide because I was a FTM and so uneducated. I regret his decision sooo much almost immediately infact. This time around I told my partner here’s my views and he threw out but mine and the oldest isn’t that way. So I looked at him and was like do you know what your dad or sister look like? No? K shut up invalid argument. He immediately looked at me like I didn’t think of that that’s fair. I understand the train of thought but idk how that shit don’t derail much faster than it comes out your mouth. I took care of my eldest, I see how our choice affected him and affects him to this day and I LOATH my choice because at the end of the day it was MY choice to allow his fathers vote be end all be all. And I hate myself for it. I won’t allow another man to interfere again. No. My partner can say all he wants but at the end of the day you can’t know what you’d like more if you’ve never had the opposite.

It’s also just untrue? 😂 Like circumcised (adult) penises look unfinished to me. Like they’re missing something. Which, you know, they are. But yes, having aesthetics on your list for why you’re pro-genital mutilation for your *child* is bizarre. It’s like recommending your teenage daughter have non-consensual labiaplasty 🥴

I find it really odd, there is a post atm on this group about it and the key points are looks and cleanliness - like wtf! So so wrong in my opinion.

@Lara the scar on adults makes me sad… and it looks so.. tight and uncomfortable!

I chose to circumcise my son for a religious reason and I’ve never heard of a male complaining about being circumcised rather than un circumcised honestly, I feel like being circumcised makes it easier when it comes to cleanness and infections. I know it’s weird. I guess to talk about, but everyone has their own choices/opinions.

Well, obviously for his future wife/partner. If that's their reasoning. I am in the circumcision boat for religious purposes! So just because God says we do it.

@Yessi Naomi see but that’s the thing, like why are some people worried about what their BABY’s future spouse will think about the child’s future junk? It just seems odd to me to be thinking about your newborn baby in that way ya know? No hate at all btw, just a little bit of further clarification!

It is odd but I’m the opposite for an adult man I much prefer intact. Circumcised ones freak me out

There are a ton more reasons to hate circumcision than it being more or less attractive

I definitely find it strange

I also find it weird how many people ask me if I did or didn’t. Like why does anyone want to know if I did or didn’t. Even strangers. I’m like why are you thinking about my babies private area?!

It's incredibly weird and inappropriate. Why is anyone thinking about their child's genitals like that.

@Shauna, that's not what this post was about.

It’s definitely weird but I also don’t circumcise so that’s already weird. Buuutt I can somewhat understand what they mean. We didn’t want to for many reasons. But one reason is because when they do start having sex it feels better to not be cut because you’re more sensitive there so yes we are thinking of the future of our son’s penis. So when someone thinks it’s more attractive then sure that’s what they think. I think not being cut is more attractive. I don’t necessarily think that should be the only reason why you decide to or not. There should be lots of reasons. But thinking about your child’s future and how their wife will think of their penis I think is something you should also think about. It shouldn’t just be all about you you need to think of your child too

@Gabrielle I get it. I chose not to because I think it is genital mutilation and id much rather my son make the decision for himself if he wants to when he’s older

As someone who comes from the UK where circumcision isn't a thing (unless medically needed or religious/cultural) this whole conversation is just weird to me. I have a 19m old boy. It's never been brought up. His foreskin is still fused to his glans and will be for another 2/3 years. He's never had an infection. And when he can retract it he'll just be taught to pull it back and wash himself like his dad does. Same way you teach your child how to wipe their bum.

It is weird but I had it done for all 3 of my sons having known 2 older men having to get it done later in life and one being wheelchair bound for months afterwards. Also, I’ve known many nurses in elder care homes that say they would recommend it due to not everyone cleaning it properly and causing issues. There is no wrong or right answer IMO we all just do what we think is best with the knowledge we have.