Thoughts plz

I went through the same. I was on his ass to the point I didn’t care if I made him mad or annoyed him. Y’all both had the kids not you. I use to try to talk to the point my anger would get overcome and I stopped being nice. My bf use to always just sit, play games, be in his own world while I’m in reality. Right now I’m not working and he is and paying bills too so to me he acted like since he works he wouldn’t take care of the kids. Yours working, doing a business does not mean to be lazy. That’s what it is they get taken over by laziness cus they see we got it. Love my bf but he hasn’t been to barely doctors appointments, school stuff, etc. Best advice not greatest for me to annoy them to the point they see, even my daughter added in cus she missed him and he be in the house with us

@Shey thankyou for this just so hard trying to talk to him as he thinks I am just getting on at him I then sit there express that tired I get no time I feel overwhelmed with it all and dosebt seem interested or he’ll say I know I get it what ever but nothing change so its just impossible and that’s it because I am stay home mum he almost taken step back and dosebt think he needs to bother I getting to point where I feel like saying to him don’t be here if you don’t want to but if you are going to be here pull your socks up ! I am using my savings to pay for all of this and that’s fine of corse I don’t mind but just offer to help and make little more effort that all I want. I’ve started saying to him when comes in from work I going for bath or I am taking my lunch break now.

I'm so sorry you're going through that, what he's doing and not doing is wrong, but it sounds like he may be overwhelmed, and it may be causing some depression or extra pressure. Hating your job plays a big role in your overall mood, mental health and how you interact with family and friends. I would try to discuss some way to eliminate the extra stress, maybe looking into some jobs that would be more beneficial to you all, and help him feel better. Also, if it's an option maybe consider some part time work just to help a bit. Financial burdens I believe are the main root cause to divorce and marital issues, which is why me and husband discuss plans for making our lives easier so that we can always remain happy with eachother, when there's any form of lack, it spreads and creates more issues. I know, I used to be so moody when I worked day times and too many hours, I recently switched to night times, less hours and taking monthly breaks, and it's been the best thing I could do for my own sake and family's.

@Rosie thankyou Rosie 💗 yeah I can understand completely🙂 I am currently stay home mum as my eldest daughter has additional needs and is none-verbal and currently going though process getting her assessed and we have struggled to find any child care that suits her and she is her most happiest at home so at monent that’s why I am at home🥰 but deffently I will try have chat with him and see if there is any more I can do to support him Evan if it’s emotionally thankyou for your advice ❤️ I also try to support money wise as much as I can by using my savings to pay for food shops and anything else I can also 🙂 xx

I understand! I think just showing him some support as far as work may help that. Also, if you guys have the time, plan some date night or outings, you can even take the kids! We take our baby everywhere but even a little picnic, seeing a movie, going out for brunch, just so it's not work work work all the time. You guys might need some quality time together! ❤️

@Rosie this all sounds like good advice I think I have also been so stressed recently with everything that I may have been little rubbish in my relationship thankyou 💗 xx