Am I a bad friend?
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Although part of friendship is being there for your friend you’re also not obligated to be a stand in therapist at all times for your friend. Definitely set some boundaries!
Thanks ladies, that makes me feel a bit better. The number of calls I’ve taken this week, and we’ve met for a walk which went on forever, I just feel I’m at my limit for this week!
Just communicate so that she knows. She may not know she's overwhelming you if you don't let her know. And making her feel iced out is possible
@Monét she’s extremely sensitive though, and would take it sooo personally if I said I was feeling a bit too overwhelmed by her. I hate lying but in this situation I feel like I just need to make an excuse because the fall out could be terrible 😢
Sucks to say, she's taking advantage of you. She's being selfish knowing you're pregnant and tired, yet she wants to vent for HOURS. Do you only listen to her? Do you give her advice? Is she close to breaking up? You might be putting in time for nothing when she might return with him and it'll be the same cycle. Idk her, just asking. Point is, you have to think about yourself first, especially now you have a lo otw. Sometimes you'll say ok to listen, but you'll have your downfalls where you're not feeling it and it's OK to say no
That's an exhausting friend then. Also the self awareness is lacking. I would express feeling very tired and overwhelmed in general (like you said, you have your own shit) as a reason for cancelling. if she ignores that, it's kinda just confirmation that she needs a therapist and to stop dumping on her friends.
Absolutely not! You're 100% entitled to your own boundaries. Just say to her "baby is making me feel a bit crappy tonight so I'm going to rest and have an early night, do you mind if we do it another night?" Sometimes you just need to say no and put yourself first, that's not being a bad friend that's just respecting yourself 🤷🏻♀️