Unexpected Pregnancy
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We have this age gap between our two girls and it’s pretty amazing. My eldest was the ultimate Velcro baby but took becoming a big sister in her stride. She was old enough to have a good idea about what we were telling her when explaining about the baby arriving and was very excited. They’re now 4.5 and 2 (tomorrow!) and the best of friends - most of the time! ☺️ I had to stop breastfeeding at around 10 weeks pregnant as I was getting blanching/spasms. We took her to choose a build a bear, and whenever she was sad about no longer having “mummy milk”, she could cuddle that. It seemed to help and she handled it really well Try not to overthink it. Pregnancy hormones can make everything seem really scary sometimes
If you have Facebook I would recommend the group “Biologically Normal Infant and Toddler Sleep” a lot of people that has gone through your same situation and maybe can share what they have done.
I was pregnant with my second when my first was 2 and 3 months. She was still nursing. I kept nursing as usual - she self weaned when milk transitioned to colostrum. Some women tandem feed (feed both newborn and toddler), I was open to this but she weaned and never wanted to restart. Whatever you decide is perfect - weaning is bittersweet regardless of when it happens 2 year old was in our room and doing a lot of cosleeping when I got pregnant. We gave her her own room shortly after we got pregnant, I would nurse her in her bed then leave once she fell asleep. Being in her own room helped quickly decrease the number of wakings
@Ryann Thanks so Much for this, it’s giving a sense of relief.
@Joanna Wow amazing! My daughter is pretty self aware and learns super fast, I will take your advice and not overthink it! I appreciate it
@Maria I will do that, thank you ☺️
@Rebecca Thanks for sharing this. We will definitely consider it and I know im just overwhelmed and overthinking things as they are not al all what we had in mind.
Forgot to say, we already had a floor bed for our eldest when I fell pregnant. She would usually nap in there sometimes, and start the night there but then come in with us. We continued with that and closer to the baby arriving, my husband would take her into the guest bed if needed. Again, she adapted really well. She’s 4.5 now and we have to wake her in her big girl bed most days. I had everyone telling me I was doing it all wrong and she’d never sleep on her own, so I like to make sure they know how well she sleeps now ☺️ I’d have never believed it had you told me when she was little! Parenting is great at teaching us to adapt and tweak things as needed. We are child led as much as we can be, and I love all that they are teaching us 🥰
You don’t have to stop breastfeeding unless you are advised because of being high risk! I’m almost 8 weeks pregnant and still nursing my 13 month old. You will probably lose your supply eventually but not everyone does. Plenty of people nurse throughout pregnancy!